I went round to Rich's last night and we're finished. He still wants us to be friends, apparently I'm his best friend and he couldn't imagine not seeing me or talking to me everyday.
He thinks it's a bad idea me keeping the baby tho as I'm only 21 and it'll ruin my life and he never wanted any more after his son with the ex. He feels pressured but has said that he'll be there for me and the baby and help me out with what ever he can when ever he can.
I've told him to just walk away I don't want him to feel pressured, I don't want him to have to deal with this as he doesn't want to but he said he has a conscience (don't know if I'm spelling it right).
After hours of my crying I went home and felt so emotionally drained I just fell asleep and that was about 9:30!!! Still not sure how I'm going to cope just being friends but I can't not see him. Everything is always such a mess.
Sorry chick!!
Don't know really what else to say because at the end of the day nothing anyone says to you at the moment will help.
You have to deal with this in your own way and hope that your ex will be true to his word and remain to be a part of your's and your baby's life.
I was only 19 when I had my first child and I went on to have another 2 in the 2 years following, It was only then that my oh decided that he couldn't cope with the resonsibility!! And left!!
I know things must feel raw right now but trust me...us women are a lot stronger than men give us credit for and you will come through this a happier and more contented person, i know i did.
You have a beautiful baby on it's way who's going to need you and love you more than anyone else ever could, and that is something really special.
Keep your chin up chick and good luck with everything xxxxxxxxxx
Well at least it finished well, which is more than happened to me when I was pregnant before. He sounds like a decent guy. Don't let someone elses feelings put pressure on you over the baby. You do what you feel is best.
I'm really sorry you're having to go through all this.
I am so sorry you have to go through this. At least it ended well. Hopefully he will keep his word, and be there for you and your LO.
Stay strong. We are always here to listen.
Most of my friends are more concerned as to the baby rather than how I feel or my state of mind which is actually getting to me a bit.
I know the baby's important buy sure my frame of mind or how I'm feeling is just as important. I know it's just one of those things but I never thought I'd be in this situation. I always thought that when I had a baby I'd be in a happy and stable relationship.
He shouldnt pressure you to get rid of the baby thats not fair. It took both of you to make it so he needs to face up to resposibility.
Don't be pressured,
Having a baby wont ruin your life, in wome ways it brings more of a different outlook for yourself and your priorities.
Good luck.
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