I 1st got 2gether with my ex in 2002 i was 14 he was 16. When i was 16 i found i was expecting and it all went downhill from there. He started being unfaithful, abusive towards me and just totally horrible, all the time saying i should have a termination. When i didnt everything blew up and he joined the army and went away. I hardly heard off him and he only came back every so often and then he wouldnt see our son just sorta boast about him to his friends and pretend he was the big daddy! As times gone on weve started to get on better and he even started coming home every weekend to see me and our son which was great. He seemed as tho hed grown up and everything and i realised i still loved him to piece (never stopped if im honest!) Im now 19 and hes 21 and weve been seeing each other for a while however i found out i was pregnant again last week and he totally went off the handle! I mean he went skits! He said i was ruining his life and that is was the worst thing in the world and that i HAD to get rid of it. He even threatened me with if you dont get rid of it dont think Jaycob (our son) will ever see me again the whole works! The thing is i live in a pretty small town and when i was preg the 1st time everyone knew what hes like (unfaithful, horrible to me etc!) and everyone reall rallyed round and supported me. But i can just see them saying how stupid is she! She knows what hes like, he doesnt see Jaycob or support us and yet shes gone and got pregnant by him again! I just feel really low and down! Initally i was excited , i never thought hed react like this. Im just soo stupid! Im going to be 19 (im 20 in November, babe due in October) a single mom to a 2 year old and a baby, by the same dad who i know is a useless, self obbsessed guy! I just feel real..............................urgh!!!!

sorry its long and thanks for reading!! xxxxxxx

aaww hunni tel him where to get off and grow up u can do this on ur own by the sound f it u have done it before with no help maybe u shoulf have learnt u lesson first time but it seems to made u grow up urself so u should be proud of what u have already good luck hunni what ever u do xxx

He's the silly , selfish idiot. You may have been a bit lovestruck, but hey sure you are a great mum to your son and will be to your new baby. He doesn't deserve you or the children.

Ignore what people say, personally I think your better off without him anyway

I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. It sounds like he still has some growing up to do

On a side note I moved the thread into the Home, Life, Relationships section of the forum as we try to keep pregnancy related posts out of the General Chatter area out of respect for those we are TTC and having problems TTC, (and I think you'll get more responses in the Home, Life, Relationships section) hope you don't mind.

I'm sorry that has happened to you again. Try not to worry. You are much better off without him, and hey, if you did it once, you can do it again! Who needs him?

Sorry you have to go through this again! Ignore what everyone else says, you'll do great on your own

Guys can be so immature!

Hopefully he will come round though. It might take him some time but as he grows up a bit he'll realise what he's missing out on.

I hope things get better soon & don't worry about what other people think. It's nothing to do with them.

Sorry to hear what you are going through.
Were you both using protection? (contraception)
or did he just leave it up to you?
Sounds like you and your son and baby would be better of calling him bluff and saying you'd be better off without him.
You cant have that attiutde using the kids as arguments.
If he didnt want kids he should have made sure there was no chance in the first place.