Wobbles

I think your making the right decision if its the one your heart is telling you.

Sounds like he has opened up to you which is a good step ... maybe?

It can be hard to adjust to the idea that you are now a parent just curious with him saying he wasn't ready if this was a planned pregnancy (dont have to answer but would make some sense if it wasn't) - Maybe this is a chance if you want to regain your relationship to sit down and talk it through on the 'if' you stayed basis and in short explain you need more help BUT at the same time if there comes a point he feels he can't cope and is loosing patience to come to you to take over. Impatience could be down to slight anxiety. Tbh I myself get anxiety when I don't know what to do or how to make it better. Getting impatient is usually frustration SO that way he fits into helping more and adjusts to what to do with baby but knowing your there ... also should the point come that you take over your OH may sit back and watch how you deal with what he is getting flustered with.

Im rambling I hope you see what I'm trying to say.

Good luck hun with whatever you decide.

sweetsammi

Hi wobbles, yeah i understand what u mean..i agree alot of it is anxiety and frustration cus he dont know what to do. Problem is though he cont cope with oliver ccryin for more than 5mins before he starts which means id basically be lookin after ollie 24/7! No it wasnt a planned pregs. We've had the conversation on what would happen if i did stay..he just said he dont think he could change..and last night he proved he cant as the same thing happened! He started effing and blinding at oliver cus he was hungry and ewan was playin xbox! i knew after that ive made the right choice..although im scared. dunno how im gonna get by alone fiancially just on my MA. No way i can afford a place.Havnt even told my parents yet i havnt had the chance as ewan is of work at the min and i wanna speak in private! ard too cus shes a childminder so i cantreally call her and have a long covo whilst shes got lil uns to care for.Dont even know if we'd be able to stay yet.x

bluebell

Sounds like your having a hard time of it at the mo and wanted to send you a

Although it must be such a hard decision to make, it really sounds like it'll be the best for you and Oliver if you leave. I hope you are able to speak to your mum soon and find out if you can stay with her for a bit until you get back on your feet!!

You never know, by giving Ewan a bit of a breather he might just come to his senses and realise what he's missing!!

xx

Wobbles

I think its real shame hes saying he can't change because he could.

I get uptight when Caitlin is crying I feel useless and that stresses me to which OH takes over so its not abnormal for someone to feel like that even Mum.

Has Ollie still got bad colic then hun?

You can get housing help - should you move out its something to look into. You can go to your Mums (or where ever you plan to go) & go and speak to someone in the council regarding housing & apply. After this when allocated a house (more chance with baby and over crowded situations) you can depending on income get housing paid or help towards housing if you work.

There are ways sometimes you have a little wait but if you have made your decision & have somewhere to go then get there first and then seek advice.

If you cannot go to your parents then you want to still speak to the local housing again about options on current position. There are womens hostels now I know MOST hostels are not exactly nice there are some really nice ones out there for Mum & baby so don't turn your nose up immediately at the idea! I had amate in a family hostel and it was gorgeous and she didn't want to leave

this must be so hard!

sweetsammi

It is so very hard and im so worried Oliver will grow up to hate me cus i broke up with his dad! Ewan is handling it so maturly though, we are goin to the bank today to get my name removed from his account and he's splittin all our savings so we get half each. He is going to come and see Ollie twice a week. Its so hard when we still love one another but cant make it work-thats the worse thing x

xclairex

hi there sweetie you are doing the right thing its not fair for your baby to get stuck in the midle maybr you need to go your seperate ways for a couple of weeks or however long it takes for youe other half to miss you! and realise that you and the baby is all he wants it mite makin him open his eyes and realise he needs to grow up and be a dad! dont worry abou u will have all the help you need im sure! all that is important is your little one and whats rite for him! x

supernurse

I really think things are gonna work out for the best for you.
It sounds like he does really care for you and your boy if he's letting you go, I would imagine that some guys would make life hell if you were to leave them.

It's better to make these decisions sooner rather than later. If it was later down the line then your boy would be more aware of what was happening and that would have a huge effect on him.

Good Luck with everything that you do. xx

Redhorse xxx

Oh Sammi,

That is so sad. I read through everything and I have to say that I defo think that you are doing the right thing.

Good luck and hugs to you all.

PS I have pm'd my mobile number incase you ever need a chat.

Redhorse xxx

leeanne

I am sorry this is happening to you. Once a child is in the picture, we need to think about what is best for them.

Sometimes a separation does improve things. Don't close the door entirely as it may turn out alright in the end.

I have my own story, but have to get my kids to school.

Bless you and good luck!