Samo

A good friend of mine who i've not heard from for months recently came to me to talk about his relationship with a girl he met that crumbled. It was a long-distance thing and they would travel to each other when they 'wanted to see each other'. So how it all came down was she had him come visit, they saw some movies, had a couple dates over the weekend, all of which he paid for...and the dinner tab came out to $120!!! I told him that sounds very wrong. He flew home at the end of the weekend and the following day she wrote to him saying 'sorry, its not working out' and that was that.

He was obviously crushed and is the type of guy to block out people from his life completely, which is what he plans to do with her, no second chances.

Well today she messaged him stating she is late and will be taking a pregnancy test and "keep your phone close, you'll be the first i let know." He's really distressed and doesn't know what to make of it and asked me for help. He wants nothing to do with her, but obviously wants to do all he can for the baby, if she IS pregnant. I told him he doesn't have to have any responsibility over her, but it would be all about baby. I really don't know what else to say to help...

I told him not to stress himself out until she knows for SURE (it really seems unlikely as she's on BCP etc, but cannot rule out the chance). Any advice?

miel

i think you gave him all the advice he needed ...let me know what happen next.

anita665

I always think it's nice when a guy takes you out and pays for everything - a little old fashioned but I rate a guy very highly who does that! Even so I used to (not single now obviously so I don't anymore) offer to pay my share but wouldn't argue if he said no.

Is there any way that she was possibly using him to get pregnant?! I can't believe how many women do that & I personally have 2 friends who I know did it. Also I read a magazine artical with a load of girls talking about how they did it. Guys have to be so careful & girls that do that really let the side down for women.

I really hope it turns out she isn't pregnant for your friends sake.

Samo

Yea she's supposedly taking a preggy test tonight, saying it's been almost 5 weeks since her last AF. I did scold my friend a bit for not using protection lol. But i just don't really know how "ex-couples" handle a situation like this never had that experience before, but gosh, i certainly don't ever want to talk to any of MY ex's again, i'd be completely lost if it were me!

Samo

Yea, he is nice and doesn't hesitate to pay for dates, but for the whole duration of their relationship she hasn't paid a single thing! He described her as being a girl who likes to have it "her way". He was especially upset because, after paying for such expensive dates, she decides to tell him 'its over' AFTER rather than break the news before, making him think everything between them was fine and they had a lovely weekend. She just sounds like a golddigger to me!! but i am just being a protective friend!

I did think about maybe she thought she made a wrong decision is ending the relationship, and trying to 'win him back' by giving a pregnancy scare. As he has not talked to her -at all- since the break up and out of the blue she is now 'wondering how he's doing'.

Iwantone!!!

i think someone is mind games and thats sick hope she sorts her head out as its not fair on him xxx