swattongemz

I feel so miserable but think i'm being paranoid.

I've been married to my husband for 2 years we have a daughter of 11 months and I have a son from previous aged 8. My OH uncle also lives with us, he is 46 yrs old and disabled.

I hate where we live cos my sons family live around here and have threatened to kidnap my son before.

My OH smokes weed, and every morning wakes up in a bad mood and takes it out on us all. He swears at my son and calls he names and is very strict. I feel I do loads, and he puts me dowmn.

He says its the stress

anita665

You really don't sound very happy with your situation. Are you happy with your OH? If not then maybe it's time to move on. I know it's not easy to leave a r/ship you've been in for a while but things get easier and it's better than staying unhappy.

I really hope things get better for you soon.

swattongemz

I can only write a bit at a time, when my OH goes out, cos he would go bad if he knew I was speaking to strangers.

Sometimes I feel like leaving but I have no where to go. I can't go to my parents as they have their own problems and I don't know anyone else around here. I cannot stay around here if i leave or i will be threatened with violence. Sometimes things are ok and sometimes there not. I don't know what to do

Jazzy

Honey, you need to think of yourself and your family, your OH doesn't sound very nice

nikkybaby

If i were you, I would get out of that situation, for both you and your LO's. It doesnt sound too good.

swattongemz

When i want to leave I can't as we have no car at the moment and hardly any money due to him spending it.

When i have said enough is enough he says he will change but then it happens again. I have no one to help me and no where to go thats safe.. He would probably stop me taking our daughter too if i tried to leave.. i feel trapped.. this is not the life i wanted

Rumpskin

I am sorry lovely. You should not have to put up with your OH smoking crap and swearing at your son.

Can you get away and stay with someone just to clear your head.

xx

Vickie

Are there any organizations in your area that you could look to for help? When my mom left my dad she went to a women's organization for assistance...to help get her out of the situation.

swattongemz

well OH out again spending another £20 on smoke.. no wonder we never have any money. He goes through about £80 a week!! We have a car sitting on his grandfathers drive whick is gonna cost £300 to fix which we could really do with but the way he spends the money we never will.

Before we moved back here he stopped smoking for a year because he never had the temptation around him, and he was so much a better person back then. Now he is just moody all the time spending our money. WE have applied to move down the southwest but it will prob take forever to get rehoused and I don't think i will last.

Does anyone know any organisations in the SW that take women and children?

leeanne

I am sorry you are going through this. The hardest thing in the world is feeling like you can't do anything about your situation and the biggest worry is what will I do, where will I live etc.

How has most of your marriage been?

I have to ask you, does your son's family have visiting rights? Does your son visit them?

You are concerned because they have threatened to take your son away. If the situation you are in is negative, chances are your son is talking to them. And the more you stay in that situation, it gives your son's family more ammunition to try and take that child away.

How long has your OH been waking up in a bad mood? Has this been going on since your marriage or since you became pregnant? Does he work? If it has been going on since you became pregnant, chances are he is stressed. It's no excuse though. Remember, men feel that they are the supporters of the family and if they feel they are not fulfilling this role, they feel less than a man. And right now, if you talk to him about this, he will get in a worse mood right?

I really feel that a separation might be necessary. Sometimes it's what's needed to shell shock a person into getting out of their mood and situation. They realize that they themselves need to change.

There are options out there and one just has to do some research, but one thing I know is you don't sound happy and the more unhappy you get the more you feel trapped and controlled and the harder it is to get out of the situation.