Sorry this is a long messy story, but it doesn;'t seem anyone understand how i feel ( apart from my mom and my best friend )
i've been with my husband for 4 1/2 years now and everything is always fine unless my in-law is involved.
It's started since we've been together, she came from Europe to visit his son ( my husband ) and she's not happy with the way he lived because he didn't have everything like when he's at home with her and she complaint to me ( of course when he's not around ) about how i hang his clothes and where i iron the clothes, where we slept etc. ( we worked on the island ). i don't think she liked me ,one day i was sitting with my colleague in front of the office and she came out with the scissors and cut my hair ( i didn't see she came from behind ) i told her that i was not happy about it, i walked away and 10 minutes later she came and told me to move my butt back to work. I put up with this because i thought that she's not with us all the time. That was going on for almost 2 years and she came to visit 3-4 times a year and stay 1 month at each time. i remember after Tsunami she wanted my husband to go back with her ( without me ) but he insisted he wanted me with him.

I think in the 3rd year or so that she got better but she has very high expectation about how we live and so obsessed about the cleanliness. Now i'm 12 weeks pregnant and i miscarried once last year, so this time i'm more careful and follow the doctor instruction. What she keep saying is I'm worry too much, she told her daughter who's used to be midwife that i'm bloody worried. She said she knows about pregnancy and i'm suffering from the first miscarriage. I was bleeding last week and i went to see the doctor and i had internal ultrasound to check if the baby is ok, yes the baby was fine and she said the same thing i'm too worried and she knows what she's talking about. She doesn't know my body and my pain.

Anyway, i don't like her attitude and she's so bossy and fussy about everything. I'm not happy to have her around. She's gonna buy a house here close to us and she can stay here longer. It's gonna push me too far and i don't know how to cope. She's been a lot better than the start but i still don;t feel comfortable with her at all. She upset me too much for too long before and still does. This house is not mine when she's here. But i can tell you that if she doesn;t get her own way, it would be the end of everything.

My husband is very good with me though. i don;t want to sacrifice my relationship just because of her, but sometimes ( lots of times ) she drives me mad

Have you talked to your husband about how you feel? Maybe he can have a talk with her? There is no reason you should have to sacrifice your relationship with your husband because of her, and it's obviously causing tension and resentment on your part...

we talked about this since the first problem started but it only worked for a day and he said many times "nobody wins this". i often talk about how she makes me feel with him, and even you talk to her about it as nice as possible, it still doesn't work ,she thinks you hate her. This is what i mean "no solution"-put up with it or keep up your relationship.

is she in ur house? if so i would tel her look this is my house this is the way we do things if you dont like get a b+b u need to speak to ur OH and tel him how u feel and explain what a pain in the arse she is i know what u mean my MIL is the same so i say to her its our house you more than welcome to clean it for me if u think i dont do a good enough job she shut up then hope it gets sorted hunni

she didn't though, we said before you don't have to clean the house but if you want to do it ( because she wants to do things all the time ) then it's fine and my HB said to her this is the way we live and we are happy about it. It didn't work dear ha ha ... This is a mission impossible.
new news, she wants to buy a house close to us and she can live here 6 months a year ( the house is 40 meters away from ours )

move house lol move to england its lovely here in sunny sunny england! you should just tell her straight hun if you dont tell her before she moves near to you it will build up inside you and one day you will just blow and go nuts! x

Well, we live in Thailand and she lives in England, now she's going to buy a house here.

Thats horrible. I definately think u should discuss some solutions with your HB. And tell her to back off. Your HB obviously thinks ur good enough for him so it's not her problem.

you have got to speak with your other half, tell him everything.
If someone ever cam up and cut my HAIR i'd bash them on the nose.
Cant beleive that.
Honestly you not going to do yourself ANY favours if you dont talk about it
x

If you have talked to your husband about it, and not much has seemed to change, I would talk to her yourself. I'm having similar problems... My DH is really close to his mom, and talks to her everyday... Well at first things weren't bad, she didn't bother us much... But now she really has started to try making decisions for OUR household. Like tons of stuff. I finally put my foot down last week, since I was so frustrated about it. I have a big beautiful bed that is only a couple of years old.. And it wasn't cheap! Well his mom still has his bedroom at her house... and she decided that we should get rid of my bed, and take his bed (which was just a box spring and mattress on the frame part...no head board or foot board or anything!) Just cause she things that one would be more comfortable! Well we have been sleeping on mine since we have been together, and have had NO problems!! And the crap part was DH was going along with it! Til I told him no way. She even suggested that we give up our lease and move in with her when they baby comes! Sometimes people just dont know boundaries, but you are the woman of the house, and you should stand your ground hun! Good luck!!!