my boyfriend is really getting on my nerves lately i feel he is being so selfish and inconsiderate i dont know if it is my hormones so i need so advice........
about 4 weeks ago he told me he had been gambling again i knew he had gambled before because he was open and honest bout it when we met but i was under the impression it had stopped. he admitted that it had been going on for some time and that he felt really bad for lying to me for months and months. i forgave him and am currently supporting him because i love him and because at this moment he seems to want to get better and is going to his meetings weekly.
i currently work 13 1/2 hour shifts which is tiring enough without being pregnant and he very rarely helps out around the house by doing jobs for me i have to do it on my days off. i feel his life has continued as normal without him even attempting to adjust. at the min i am saving my bollocks off for when this baby comes but he refuses to cut back on what he spends for example drinking money for when he is working in the pub on weekends i dont want to stop him drinkin i just want him to cut back and save some money but his reply is he only goes out once a week well bloody hell i cant remember the last time i went out. i dont know what to do anymore everytime we try talk bout it we end up arguing
you need to scare him! thats what I did with my OH. Let him know that if he isn't willing to make adjustments for this life changing event, and if you are having to do it all yourself. Then you can do it all yourself without him. I told my OH that if he wasn't willing to make some sacrifices and I was the only one sacrificing things, time, money, etc then I didn't even need him around, LO and I would be just the same without him.
Hope things work out for you though.
i scared my OH too, i emptied the account and gave the money to my nan to mind and told him alot of it had gone because of us 'dipping it' for things. he was spending alot of money on weed and has not stopped it all together and drinking too! it did take me to break up with him for about a month but were ok now lol x
i agree with the girls u need to shock him u may need to make only cook for one and say u can only afford to cook for urself and baby as u have cut bk but carnt afforrd to feed him he needs to get hs act together babies are not for free or the other alternative is take him shopping with a list of things u need to baby and show him how much things cost good luck x
seems he needs a reality check, not sure the whole baby thing is sinking into him. Shocking him like the other girls suggested sounds like something that could work.
I also agree with the reality check like all the other girls are saying. It really sounds as if you'd be fine without him and I think he knows it but has gotten much too comfortable with the current situation. He won't change if he doesn't feel like he HAS to.
Why is it that they always respond to fear? lol I agree also, he def needs a reality check. I hope things work out for you hon I'm sure he'll change his ways if he realizes exactly what could happen if he doesn't change.
thats what I did with my OH. Let him know that if he isn't willing to make adjustments for this life changing event, and if you are having to do it all yourself. Then you can do it all yourself without him. I told my OH that if he wasn't willing to make some sacrifices and I was the only one sacrificing things, time, money, etc then I didn't even need him around, LO and I would be just the same without him.
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