So u all know OH and i have been havin REAL problems and ive spoken about leaving him things have been that bad. Now im really concerned.

Ewan is still losin his temper with Oliver when he cries. He raises his voice and is all heavy handed with him which obviously worries me. I understand its frustrating cus he cries ALL day and even i get stroppy at times but i NEVER get angry with Oliver, I never would, he's poorly and just a little baby who doesnt know any better.

Ewan is really struggling to cope with it though and has been suffering from depression since Ollie was 3weeks old.

Anyway despite us rowin and me tellin Ewan how worried i am at the way he reacts to Oliver's crying things havnt been improving even though he keeps apologisin and crying and sayin what a bad dad he is and that he'll stop.

Then last night i noticed a bruise on Oliver's arm and at 1st i didnt think too much of it..i just thought me or Ewan could have accidentally done it just by dressin him as babies are really fragile. But today i found another on his tummy and now im really worried Ewan is the cause. I feel so awful and guilty in sayin it but it doesnt suprise me if it is him cus he's too rough with him when he cries..Now im not sayin he's intentially hurtin Oliver- i dont believe he'd ever hurt him on purpose. But he cant control his temper. Im so scared for my son. I cant look at Ewan. Ive told him i think he's to blame and he got upset sayin he was useless and that he's sorry and feels guilty etc. But how many times have i herd that? He's now gone off in a strop sayin im accusin him of beatin his boy up.

I think its best i leave but where do we go? Theres nowhere for me to go except my parents and they now only have a 2bedroomed house (one room bein my brothers) I cant rent anywhere else cus il stil have to pay my part of the rent at the house im in now. I have noone. And last time i tried to leave Ewan literally took Ollie from me so i couldnt leave with him. What would you do, im not bein over the top am i? Problem i have now is everytime i leave Oliver with his dad i worry..i shoudlnt need to feel he is unsafe with his own father! Ans i feel SO guilty cus i know he isnt doin it on purpose.

Maybe i have it wrong. Maybe theres a medical reason for his bruises but i really do think its because Ewan gets angry and grabs him too hard when he's cryin. Please help i have to think of my little boy x

If you want to leave, even if it is to stay at your parents before you can sort anything else out, maybe take Oliver first and then go back for your things so he isn't suspicious? I don't know but I don't think you should stick around if you have even the slightest feeling those bruises are from your OH

Go to your parents, even if they only have two bedroom house they will be more than willing to take you in. Besides it's a much better situation to be there and Oliver be safe than in an unsafe (or potentially unsafe) environment.

Oh darling
I really don't know what to say
Has Ewan seen anyone for his depression?
I think you need to ask yourself some questions before you walk out
Would you be comfortable leaving Oliver with Ewan for a while on his own?
Do you believe that it is accidental?

Don't get me wrong i'm not suggesting for a minute that he has purposely hurt Oliver but only you know Ewan and know what his moods are like

Maybe it would help if Ewan spoke to someone about his feelings, the anger is really not a good thing , we all get frustrated with crying babies but it really seems that he cannot handle it at all

Aww hun I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through

I don't really know how to advise you. Obviosly you have to think of your son and you first and formost and I know it sounds awful and must be so horrible for you but if Ewan is hurting Ollie whether it's on purpose or by accident it needs to stop for Ollie and for you as well.
Could you stay are your parents just for a few days? Or any other family? Or maybe some friends just for a little while? It wouldn't have to be forever but without sounding harsh maybe it will make your OH realise exactly what he will be missing if you leave?
At the end of the day you know what's right for you, and if you need to leave then you can do that hun. I know you can do it babes
xx

sorry to hear this i think you should get out asap! i watched jeremy kyle at 3am this morning LOL and a girl let her boyfriend get away with hitting her child for weeks and the child ended up dead, thing is the girl also got 5 years because she knew about it and was the first person ever to be jailed for knowing something was going on and doing nothing about it x

He isnt hittin Oliver though, nothin like that its just that he pick him up and grabs him too hard, he's just dead rough with him in his temper, if u get me x

Sammie, you have to take your son and leave. Go to your parents, it won't be easy or fun, but it will be the best thing for your child. Whether he is hurting him on purpose or by accident, it does not matter. He is the adult, Oliver is a baby. There is no excuse. I don't care if he is depressed, if he is angry or what ever. You don't feel comfortable leaving Oliver with him, so I think that is your answer. You have to think about what is best for the baby, no matter how much your OH crys, feels guilty or fights. Leave when he is not there. Leave him a letter that states in NO uncertain terms that until he gets help for his depression and anger, you will not be back, and he will not see his son. Seriously sweetie, as hard as it will be, you can't allow this. I am so sorry he is being this way, it is not fair for you, but even more unfair for your son.

i think your man needs some help and that u need to be away from him while he gets it. it might not even be for long and he can visit u all the time, but he needs help for his moods and to learn how to be with a baby. i believe you that hes not hurting him on purpose and its easy to get frustrated with a very fussy baby he just needs to learn how to do things but on the other hand you have to be the one to protect your son. i think talking to your oh is going to be very difficult and he may not see reason at first, i would go to your mom and drop the baby off, if you dont think hell lose it wiht you then you can talk to him on your own , if not have someone else there. explain that you know he can be a good dad but first he needs some help and that you need to see him get that. i hope that this works out for you and im sure your brother will give up his bedroom for you or your parents can get you a pull out couch.