Samantha675

Sammi why are you with this man, he is manipulating you horribly with his behaviour, and I know it can not be making you happy at all. You are having a hard enough time with Oliver's eating issues, you don't need this love. I really do understand how hard it is when you love someone, but you got to love yourself and your child more. I am really worried about the two of you, and just wished there was something I could do to help. All I have is the words I type. If you don't want to go to your parents, then please please go to your girlfriends.

Iwantone!!!

hope u ok hunni xxx

vickilouise

sammi, i dont know you or anything about you (only what you've written on here) but seriously now if you've got a smidgen of doubt as to what your OH is capable of around your son then id get out quick as.
put your child before your feelings for him and get away, even if it means you staying on a hard cold floor at a friends or relatives just get out of harms way.
he might just be heavy handed and irratable now but whos to say he doesnt just 'snap' around your child how would you feel then? you are not trapped and there are places for you to go and organisations that can help you.
you'd be neglectful not to take yourself and child out of that situation.
if you do love him prove it by leaving him and forcing him to get help. at the minute it sounds like your living with a timebomb. and who's to say other people dont notice the bruises and your OH's temper and report it you may lose your child.
sorry if what ive said sounds harsh but at the end of the day its your child you've got to protect.
hope things sort themselves out for you i truely do.

beanie

sammi I just wanted to send you a hug. You have had some great advice here, I hopeyou get things sorted soon

Samantha675

Sammie, please let us know how you are today.

Wobbles

How are you hun?

Tilly

I agree with the majority, you need to get away. All it takes is him snapping and taking it out on your son in a moment of madness and there could be a terrible outcome. Go to your mum, she will understand and im sure she won't mind there not being room. You need to put your baby first and your OH needs to speak to his doctor for his depression - it is hard when you are down and trying your best to care for a baby, they can really test your patience.. he needs to be fit, mentally. Hope you get the help you need and your OH sorts his issues out.

xarlenex

I personally would go to a friends or family house. I think if you done this, he would realise he does need the help and once he starts to get the depression and anger under control (with the help of professionals) then he will look back and know why you seen him as a potential danger and understand why you took ollie away. Then yous might be able to start afresh and get on with life. But I truely believe whilst you stay there and let him get so angry n frustrated it will just keep geting worse.
I dont mean to put ideas in your head or anything but there was a story in the paper here a few months ago of how a man got angry cause a baby (6-7 month if i remember right) wouldnt stop crying and he began to shake the baby, not even realising what he was doing and that little baby died later in hospital Im sorry, im just not one for taking chances.
Good luck in however you chose to deal with this x

sweetsammi

Hi everyone thanks for all your advice and thoughts. Since I shown Ewan the little bruises he's been really gentle with Oliver. He said he had no idea he'd been that rough with him. He knows he was in the wrong.He's promised me it will never happen again and he is gonna go docs mon and see if he can speak to someone. I am just gonna take one day at a time..I believe he is genuinly sorry and although i am still angry at him and will never forgive or forget, i know that he understands if he dont sort himself out and does it again..we'll be long gone. Im sure if we mean anythin to him at all things will change and for good. I am grateful for your help i truly am. I hope u dont all think badly of me-I would never let this happen again. I havnt made up my mind as to what will become of Ewan and i yet..but i think we will end of spendin some time apart for a while. x

cupcake

hi sammi, no one thinks badly of you hun, this is your life
i hope that it works out for you and that he does change, i honestly believe ppl can change esp if he gets help, just be on the look out for this change ( getting the help ) happening quickly with no excuses. i would even go with to the doc so u can explain with OH in the room. ure one strong lady - good luck