fifi83

Thats out of order you cant let him treat your son this way its clear he his taken his temper out on oliver by grabbing him too hard you need to do something before its too late. I would take him to your parents till your OH sorts himself out.

coz

sounds like a horrible situation sorry to hear about it hun, if i was you i would just go to your parents you need to make sure your both safe just incase he did get worse , dont think about there not being enough room there you will be better off there , he cant treat a baby like this xxx

Wobbles

Oh hun I am so sorry to read this - It is very frustrating having a baby and we both have moments of not much patience but we wouldn't pick bubs up & mishandle her/be physically rough. Caitlin to this date has not had the slightest bruise so me personally would be really worried about that.

Your parents may be a squeeze but its the safety you maybe both need. Also if you do this & you dont' want to fail the relationship there is help out there and you can have a sort of seperation whist maybe he seeks some help? He comes to your parents on weekends? Work on your relationship with some distance?

AquaDementia

oh no, i think you should definitely get away from him..or at least get the baby away from him and then have a talk.
he needs to explain those bruises. there is absolutely no excuse for hurting a baby (if he did it).

Ellianna

I feel sad for you

Hope you're ok huni
xx

sweetsammi

I agree with all of u that he needs help and Oliver and i need to be away from him for a while, but he wont see reason. He'll just storm upstairs like a stroppy teenager cus thats what he's like. He isnt very mature. I mentioned him gettin some help and he said 'oh so u think im a nut job, i aint seein some psychiatric prat talkin to me like a need lockin up.. i cant believ u think i beat my son up, that u dont trust me. Im useless, im a shit dad, i cant do anythin right'. Then he cries and says he cant cope, he's fallin apart etc. He says if i move back to Leicester he wont get to see Oliver cus he has a fulltime job. He says that i'll take Oliver away and not let him see him. He said he hadnt noticed the bruises till i pointed them out..but he did say straight away, 'i bet thats my fault cus im too rough with him..'

Also if i do move into mum and dads, our relationship will well and truly be over because once my parents know about this..well they wont let Ewan anywhere near us i know it. Theyve already started dislikin him and think i should end it cus of whats been happenin so far. I darent tell them Oliver has bruises. perhaps im better off movin in with my friend in her flat as a temporary option x

VanWest

I also think you both should leave, before this turns into something nasty and one or both of you are seriously hurt or killed. I dont know much about the UK, but do they have women and children shelters? I know here where I live we have an group called SafeSpace that puts the mother and child into a shelter/home for a few weeks/months intill she is able to get on her own two feet. Sammi these are early warning signs that he cant control his anger and you BOTH need to leave right away! It's better to be safe then sorry later.

sweetsammi

It is so odd though cus there have been times in the past when we've rowed and i've actually slapped him and he always took it. He never once shown any form of agression towards me ever, and ive really pushed him at times. Hes always had abit of a temper and hes always got mardy/stroppy when he dont get his own way etc.x

bluebell

Sorry to hear the trouble you're having at the moment

I think getting some space from the situation will be best for you and bubs and also Ewan. He might wake up and smell the coffee once you and Oliver are not around and might start being more mature about the situation.

You'll also have a chance to clear your head and work out what's best in the long term.

It must be really difficult to make that decision but I expect you'll feel much better once you have left...and like you say you don't necessarily need to go to your parents, but go to someone's house where you feel safe and not pressurised into making any rash decisions.

I hope it all works out soon x

Dippy Yvanne

you can fight back tho... a baby cant...

sorry bu tif that was me, i would be gone, slightest suspicion of anyone hurting my baby, and i wudnt even contemplate staying, id go.. ur parents will understand even if there is no room.