charlottecco2

i cannot believe she said that, that is soooo mean, you poor thing. big hugs xx

jenny873

cheeky cheeky bitch! that is sooo rude! what she means to say is she doesnt want you to take her son away from her and have his own family! id tell him and see what he says and if shes said anything to him! and when you do have the baby and she calls to the hospital to see him/her and starts to say how gorgeous she thinks the baby is, get her back and just say 'yeah cute for a mistake ay'! dont let it get you down i think after what youve been through lately him being in hospital and working AND doing your college work atleast your making time for him x

genkigemini

OMG, Honey. I am sorry but that woman is a with a capital B!!!!

Poor thing! *HUGS* I am ready to over there and set that woman straight! Man, I hate people like that!

Seriously, I think you should tell your OH when you both have time to really discuss it. This way you guys are both on the same page since she obviously will be discussing it with him too. Try to stay positive. We all have faith in you and are always willing to listen.

Iwantone!!!

ingore the wicked wicked bitch how dare she tel u what to do with ur baby i would tel james and let him make the decison on what he decides when the baby its right she had no right to speak to u like that i would tell james asap hunni ingore the bitch

Redhorse xxx

Hi Ellianna,

After everything you have been through too! You poor love. I agree with everyone else, what a spiteful, nasty thing to say. She basically intimated that you weren't good enough for James. Well I have news for her, there are a lot of girls who would have run away from what has happened to poor James and doesn't she think that you have enough stress in your lives at the moment without her dictating how she thinks you have ruined James' life? You have handled this whole situation with such a lot more maturity than she has, and she is supposed to be a MOTHER?? How selfish can you get??

No one knows how to be a Mum to a baby at first, and like everyone has said, you learn by going through it. If she loves her son, then she should be able accept the decisions he makes in life. He is 19, not 9... Ellianna, hang in there- you and James will make fabulous parents.

It sounds to me as if his Mum is looking for someone to blame for his accident and you happen to be the handy scapegoat. She will be feeling scared and alienated, but she needs to realize that telling you to get an abortion or put your baby up for adoption is not on.

She wants to back up and listen to herself, on the plus side it sounds like Mark is on yours and James' side. She is lashing out at you because of the seriousness of the situation hun. Try to let it slide, you will get a chance to have your say with James' Mum.

I also agree that you should wait to tell him, unless she talks to him in the meantime. In which case I would explain as calmly as you can that this baby is coming into the family with or without her blessing. James wants this baby as much as you do- so I can't see where she is coming from.

Keep your chin up, rest yourself when you can and you can always come and chat to us if things get too much lovey,

Take Care of yourself and Bumpy!

Redhorse xxx

Lil_Baby_Boo

Hiya,

Sent you a PM as lost my whole reply somehow! (Whote quite a lot!)

Think your doing amazing!

Some MIL's are nasty and will try anything to stop their little boys "growing up"

Just stand your ground & dig your heels in!

xx

sweetsammi

Excuse me but f***ing hell! I am SO sorry ur havin to put up with those RIDICULOUS people Ellie, u do not deserve any of that! How dare they! I understand they are TRYING to look out for their son. But I cannot belive they have reacted like that in this day and age, its just appauling behaviour!

To start with it was not YOUR mistake, it was BOTH of you, it takes 2 to tango! Second, James is old enough to to make his OWN decisions. If anything his mum should be so proud of him for facing up to his responsibilities. Havin a baby is not the end of the world, and certainly doesnt mean yours or James' lives are ruined! Life doesnt stop just because you've become a parent (although it may seem it sometimes!) You can both still achieve all the things you want! Perhaps they may just need to be put on hold for a bit! I have nothin but respect for u hun, i think your so brave and u have ur head screwed on good! Most 17 year olds wouldnt be willin to take on the responsibility of a baby and juggle everythin with it that u are. You should be v proud of urself. Your havin to go through alot without them interfering. Sorry im bein harsh!
Do not let her bully you into thinkin your a loser and that u cannot raise this baby, u can. And the pair of u will be brilliant at it. Im sorry i dont have any advice for u..i just know they are totally in the wrong here. It disgusts me 2 be honest. it sounds like uv been there for james more than they have anyway! You have shown nothing but love and maturity and if they cant see that thats there problem. Most girls would have ran! You're v headstrong- you know what u want, dont let her tell u otherwise. Thinkin of u hun xx

horrorheart13

OMG, my jaw actually dropped when I read what she said to you. That is one of the nastiest things I've ever heard. Excuse the language but fuck her. As long as the two of you are in this together and you have others who support you, everything will be fine. Ugh. What a horrible bitch to say something like that to you. I'm just amazed at how some people can be.

It sounds to me like you are doing great considering all you two have had to deal with lately, to hell with her.

Mango

OMG I would be pissed right off too. You definitely should talk to your OH about what his mum said and get his opinion on her reaction. You both need each other's support without outside interference. Try not to be around her much because you don't need that negativity in your life hun, not at all. You have been blessed with a lil bub which will bring you so much happiness. Don't let her convince you otherwise!

You're strong for standing there and listening, I think I would have made off like a mad woman!

cparks1

Aww sweetie, what she said to you was absolutely horrible. Obviously she isn't woman enough to say this to her son, it's almost as if she thinks you just got pregnant on your own (WTF??). Don't listen to her, sounds like her husband doesn't even agree with her, what a bitter lady. I'm pregnant with my first and I don't know what I am doing and I'm 26, big deal. Everyone is like that with their first, it's natural. Your mother instinct will take over and you will be fine. I'm not sure why your OH is in the hospital, but I would share what his mother had to say to you when you think he will be able to handle it. He should know how evil his own mother is. Good luck to you hun and try not to stress over it, it's not good for the baby or you. You are already stressed out enough as it is with work and school and everything.