Phexia

I'm speechless! She is WAY out of line, omg.

Samo

What a horrible experience that must have been so sorry hun, stay strong! You know in your heart what is meant to be, go with what your heart says.

I would definitely have a talk with James, when you feel the time is right. And if that woman chooses not to be in her grandchild's life...it is her own decision. Don't let her sway your mind.

Samantha675

I do think James should know that his mother is not 100% behind you both. But I totally agree that now is not the time to tell him. I also think I would not be as blunt in telling him what she said to you as she was. Remember that she will be in your lives, wether you like her or not now.

I wonder if she has forgotten how babies are made as I am pretty sure you didn't get pregnant by yourself. How this is YOUR mistake is beyond me. Did you tie the boy down and force yourself on him?

Also, you can do this, I am 32 years old and I have no idea of what I am getting myself into with this baby. I have never had a child before, so how do I know what it is like. Trust me, she didn't have a clue either when she became a mother, none of us really do.

Lauren-x

nutty

I am so sorry that you had to have that on top of everything else. I think you're being incredibly strong right now, you're holding down two jobs, going to college and spending time with James. I think it says a lot about her she should be supporting you both, if she hasn't got anything nice to say she should keep quiet not add to your worries horrible horrible woman.
Take care of yourself too

Tilly

What a bitch. Women can be a pain in the ass with their sons, best for you to just ignore it.. they like to blame you for anything thats not up to their standard. Shes low to speak to you like that and not involve her son when he is a bit better, plus even worse when she knows how upset you must be anyway.

Ignore her, she is a stupid woman and you are both very mature deciding to keep and care for your little one. I think you're right in not telling your boyfriend for now though, but I def think you should.. hopefully he will put her in her place.

Nikkinoonoo

Stay strong, I know you and James will do a great job!

Ellianna

Thanks guys
I was just SO angry! I really couldn't believe what I was hearing. I just feel like I'm doing everything I possibly can for her son, and her grandchild and she still isn't happy. Fair enough, I know we're young. Nobody's more aware of that then I am, but I know we can do this. It's not something we've rushed into, just decided to do without any thought.
As Samantha said, how exactly does she think I got pregnant?? I think in her eyes her beloved son would never do even think about having sex, let alone actually do it.. despite the fact he's 19!
Nobody has an idea when you're becoming a mum for the first time, how can you? But we're ready to learn and do the best we possibly can.
I think I will tell James but wait untill after the at least his first operation. I would like to leave it until after the second as well but we don't think that's going to be until March/April and by that time I'll be about 6 months pregnant and I think I need it sorted out before then.
I really understand that this has been hard for both Mark and Karen, but it hasn't exactly been easy for me either! Let alone for James, but we've been dealing with it and you know what? We're doing pretty well at the moment!
Thanks guys sorry for the proper essay, thanks for reading it!
xx

MarchBaby

I'm sorry hun. She was really out of place saying those things to you. I would have to have told her off.
I know how you feel though. My boyfriends mom said that I should go take the pill to start my period, and I just couldn't even think of anything to say to her. This is her first grandson, to her ONLY child/son. Luckily by OH was there when she said it, and he told her that was murder and we would never do that.
She has also told us that we basically need to be disiplined, and she is going to do this by never watching him when we want her too, etc, etc..
We just dont worry about her. She will get over it, and if she misses out on things in his life, that is her fault that she will regret.
I hope things get better.

miel

i wish had being there to kick her ass a little ...anyway you sound like very mature to me ...keep you chin up
wishing you the best