Preggeronie

So this was a compete surprise for us, and my SO is the kind of guy that likes to have a plan way ahead of time, overprepares and thinks about things forever etc. i remember getting really annoyed at him in home depot one time for taking 20 minutes to choose a sprinkler for goodness sake! so this whole thing has kind of stunned him.

so far he hasn't really thought about it much, and has kept busy with his work to distract him. he says he's happy about it but it's so lifechanging that it hasn't really sunk in yet.

and of course with hormones, i'm a little irritable to begin with so I'm easily annoyed by things that I would normally let slide, like him reading some work related pamflet while watching TV on the couch with me. Plus I'm in that really sappy place right now, wanting to cuddle and talk about stuff. Just things like where are we going to put everything in the spare room when we make it the nursery, to which he replied that it's a long way off and we'll deal with it later.

I think he's in some form of denial, he thinks all my symptoms are in my head. For example he doesn't beleive I need to buy bigger pants because my stomach is already too big to button my jeans in... although I've been complaining none of my clothes fit for a month now, not knowing I was pregnant before a few days ago.

Someone said it will probably sink in when he hears the heartbeat and sees it on the ultrasound. I sent him a list of what to expect with pregnancy symptoms and a pictoral guide to baby development on his email (I was up at 5am lol). He did read it. I do have to admit he has been a little sweeter lately, kissing me on the forehead more often and asking if I'm ok. It's probably not as bad as I make it sound, I'm just hormonal.

TashaAndBump

It's annoying how when you're pregnant everything you feel seems to be blown off as "just hormones", huh??

You're allowed to feel upset about things, more so when you're pregnant than ever! But it is worth keeping in mind that you could be a little more sensitive and so reacting differently than you would if you were pregnant - but that doesn't invalidate your feelings at all!

I suspect that your partner will take it all in when you start going to antenatals together - for me and my husband, hearing the heartbeat made it very real - and after we saw the baby at our first scan it was the first time that we really had that awakening of "Oh my God, there really is a little person in there!!". Of couse we 'knew' that from the moment we tested positive... but I guess we didn't fully believe it or realise it until the scan. Be patient, hun; this is a world-rocking time for both of you!

Iwantone!!!

aawww hunni it must be a shock for u and him he probably dealing it with in hes on way xxx

Vickie

My DH was in denial the first few weeks of my pregnancy too. He was great though (my nausea was really bad for the first little bit) and I'm sure I was quite irritable. I think it just takes men longer to digest the information than women. It really hit him when we saw the baby on the ultrasound though.