reallytinyamy

I'm so sorrry to keep coming here and going on about everything.

We had another argument last night. I was no angel, I got very frustrated and when we held my head still and screamed in my ear I actually scrated him, I just wanted him to get off me. I'm not proud of it and know I shouldn't have.

He was worse, I think he has broken my wrist he twisted it and bent it right back until it touched the back of my arm and its all purple and swollen this morning. He then got a bottle of water and tipped it over me.

I told him to leave. He wouldn't and said if I don't let see the baby and do what he likes with it then he will just take it and I'll never see them. He said if I have an abortion he will kill me.

I slept on the floor last night, well didnt sleep! I sat talking to the baby telling it I promise I will look after it and I will get better. I have made an appointment to see the doctor this morning. Hopefully he'll give me the anti depressents and look at my wrist. Then I wait until Mark gets home and it starts again.

cupcake

hun i think you have to draw the line at violence, i wouldnt let anyone treat me that way esp when i was pregnant. it doesnt sound like a health enviroment. maybe you need some time apart, i hope the doc will help you with your meds so u can feel better.

Wobbles

Jesus you need more than anti Ds hun infact I would consider ridding of him before you consider them to resolve the problem.

Im not blind to life many go through hiccups some more extreme than others and me & my OH seem as bad as each other how stubborn and nasty words can get but that hun is madness I cannot believe hes threatened to take your baby ... the fact he said it and going on the whole post I wouldn't put it past him to do this even if its a matter of hours to hurt you! Its not an arguement thats gone of control its a hold over you an emotional & physical hold. My OH once told me he'd leave but not with my baby

I lash out Im bad for it and admit it and ya know we've ended up in compromising situations because of it but I know MY wrong - you acting out was instinct/self defence. The part about your sleeping looks to me like you were feared to sleep & if you were hun GET OUT!

Are you from Northants? Family? Is he from there? You have family outside of Northants that you can go to?

REALLY consider your future right now & above it all your baby!!!

Linzi

Im with what wobbs said 100%. Thats completely not on. Go and stay at your family or friends and tell them not to let him near you until youve had time to think.

I hope it gets better hun.

xxx

Wobbles

One of my exs turned into a nut job & had a baby from a previous relationship you know he started threatening to take her baby - she was that scared we became friends and stayed with me once ... he jumped my wall and was physcial with both me and her dragging their child from her arms saying he would stick to his words! A neighbour rang the police but that child was in danger from the minute it became tug & war!

reallytinyamy

My parents don't know I'm pregnant yet. I'm going to see the tomorrow and hopefully can stay the weekend.

The problem is its my house not his. He says its his cos he lives here but I pay the mortgage and its only my name on it- he moved into my house. He has made it quite clear he's going nowhere and I will not pay the mortgage for him and then not live here myself. He said if I change the locks or lock him out he'll break in- and he would.

I feel bad too because I did lash out, I did shout and my words were just as nasty as his

cupcake

words are one thing and physical harm is another, and if you pay for the house and your name is on it- its yours. if i were u i would do anything possible to keep baby and you safe.

xarlenex

Regardless of what you said to him I feel its shocking he could hurt you at all, more so when your havin his baby. You shouldnt be lying on the floor all night, you should be in a big comfy bed enjoying your sleep. They way he is acting just isnt fair on you and your unborn child I think you know this though. Its easy enough for all us to say get rid of him, but cant imagine how difficult it might be.

reallytinyamy

Its the hardest thing in the world. I always said I'd never put up with it and thought these women that did were out of their minds. But its not that easy. Of course if it was just me I'd have gone by now. But, I have to have some sort of relationship with him for the rest of my life now.

And, as much as it pains me to say it at the moment, I love him

Wobbles

If someone held my face with force and screamed at me I'd bloody hit out at them. Damn right I would!

On top of this you are pregnant you don't need it!

Your safety & your babies life is far more important than anything! You can get an order out against him and as harsh as it it there are things you can do to move house again your safety & babies life/safety is far more important!

Please tell your parents your position including pregnancy and give them the hint you need to go stay & talk.

As for him staying there who the fuck does he think he is. Says it all to me get rid is my opinion from this thread! It may not be the easiest decision but it certainly sounds like the best!