genkigemini

Honey, I agree with everyone else, obviously. Having grown up in an incredibly abusive household with each of my divorced parents, I can only tell you that these things just tend to get worse over time and not better. Having a baby is a stressful time in your lives and that will make it even worse yet. You have to remove yourself from the situation for now until other arrangements can be made. Also, although you may feel bad for scratching him, don't. There is nothing wrong with self-defense.

Iwantone!!!

aaww hunni that terribel hwat he did not matter how frustrated u get u dont derserve that it discusting u need to go the police and report him u need to get a good support network around u asap family friends move out of get hom to move out if hes doing that to u what could he do next time he could of kicked ur bump i no that sound harsh but next time u dont know what hes going to do hunni get out get support x

Wobbles

Did you tell your doctor why your feeling like you are because if you did I am very surprised he didn't offer more than anti-ds hun!! You really need to think this out & forget you love this stupid man for those few minutes

Moraine

I'm so sorry this is happening to you, especially now that you are pregnant. But I have to agree with everyone else. But it is your house so he should leave. Take pictures of your wrist so you have documentation of what he has done. If he can do this to you, there is no telling what he is capable of doing to your child. You should try and stop it here and now, he does not deserve to be in your babies life unless he gets the counselling and anger management help that he needs. And I believe you will need some counselling yourself to help you deal with this traumatic situation.

It sounds like some of the ladies here have been in a similar boat, maybe you could pm some of them to get some advice on what you can do to get out of this situation.

And I can't stress this enough, THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!! I would have done a HELL of a lot more than scratch someone if they were hurting me. You had every right to defend yourself. Now you need to stop defending him and accept that what he did was WRONG, and not justified in any way.

Samo

You have done nothing wrong hun, you had the right to defend yourself and your LO. He sounds like a very controlling, manipulative man. Although it is very hard, you need to watch out for yourself and distance yourself from him. It's not healthy at all to be living under such conditions. That is domestic violence. I too have fallen victim to violent relationships, and i thought "this is how it is, i will cope" but i was wrong. The sooner to leave, the better. There is no excuse for anyone to hit you or say things like that to you. You should NOT have to cope with that the rest of your life.

Hunny, people like that rarely change, if ever at all. They will only butter up to you and say they're sorry, but it wont be long until the abuse starts again. You need to put your foot down and do what is right for YOU and LO. Seek out your family and see if you can stay with them instead. Stay strong, love. xoxo

Carolyn

the messages on here say it all, you probably know it too, for your baby's safety you need to put some distance between the two of you. get help from your friends and family and do it quick. thinking of you.

Lil_Baby_Boo

As everyone else has said rly!! You need to tell your parents ur PG & also tell them what ur OH has done! Go back home (poss when you know he's not going to be there) take ur dad and maybe brother or uncle or friend, have the locks changed pack his clothes and leave them outside. When he returns, dnt let him in, you'll have support there should he try anything. Then call the police if he won't go! Its your property, therefore he has no say!

Maybe have somebody stay with you for a while, if he does come back your not alone! If he does try breaking in just call the police! I don't think you should be scared out of your own & ur LO's home.

xx

Redhorse xxx

Amy,

Get the police to remove him NOW! He has lied to you, left you, talked about your relationship to another woman, been out until 3.30 am with her and come home plastered and had a go at you. Now he resorts to physical violence?? WTF???

Wake up hunni, he will get worse especially with the added pressure of baby coming along. My best friend has two daughters from a previous relationship and their Dad is a violent alcoholic. She would tell you the same, get rid of him BEFORE your baby comes. He will NOT change. Sorry to be harsh mate, but love or no love you acted in self defence. No-one should ever be put in that position by the father of their baby, he cannot take the baby from you so don't even worry.

A restraining order should be served and he needs to be taught a lesson. It is YOUR house, your mortgage and YOUR BABY'S home. Take control of the situation and boot him out with the police there.

It's amazing how quiet a violent man becomes when the police show up...

Good Luck Amy, were all here for you!

Redhorse xxx

cparks1

Hurtful words are one thing, me and my hubby say mean things when we're mad, but what you posted is scary. A man should never hurt you physically and the fact that you were scared to sleep at night is very wrong. My advice to you is to get out, no matter what you have to do, get out. If he is like that now, it will only get worse hun. Better safe than sorry, you need to take care of yourself and that baby. I'm scared for you. Even though we can't be there for you, you have a support system on here. Please keep us posted on what's going on. You're in my thoughts and prayers.