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Jan 23rd, 2008, 17:43 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | The struggle for perfection.
Yeah so my kids got taken away in april of last year by children's aid for me being a little depressed and I was on depressants, and the house being cluttered cuz we just moved the month before that.
Long story short, by august my dad had custody of them. Right now I'm struggling trying to get them back, my dad's expections are pretty high compared to some people's and he wants us to clean his house, and take care of his house, as well as mine, although when I had the kids I was CLEANING there was just some boxes and stuff, which the kids didnt get into anyways
Any ideas of how to talk to my dad? we usually dont get along because our personalities clash, I was adopted as well.
I never had a mom growing up either. |
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Jan 23rd, 2008, 17:59 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Maybe you could find a 3rd party mediator who could help you two communicate on a more positive level. |
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Jan 23rd, 2008, 18:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Samantha675  Maybe you could find a 3rd party mediator who could help you two communicate on a more positive level. | Its a good idea, yes.
i HAVE someone who was doing some counselling with us. |
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Jan 23rd, 2008, 21:38 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | You also might sit down and write out a list of issues that you need to discuss and resolve with your father. This way, you can stay on topic when discussing such emotional issues. |
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | i hope u get it sorted hunni xxxx |
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| Why is it up to him what you to to make a safe environment for your kids? I could be wrong but I thought someone(social worker?) comes to your house and checks on your house to see if it's safe? It shouldn't be up to him.
Good luck and I hope your babies are with you soon!  |
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Jan 25th, 2008, 11:18 AM
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Originally Posted by acv_17 Why is it up to him what you to to make a safe environment for your kids? I could be wrong but I thought someone(social worker?) comes to your house and checks on your house to see if it's safe? It shouldn't be up to him.
Good luck and I hope your babies are with you soon! | Because thats how it ended up in court, he has custody and it's up to him, and his responsibility to decide. |
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Jan 25th, 2008, 11:28 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Could you fight for custody back?
Yes i agree with Stircrazy, also they do give you lots of chance before taking them away they like to keep familys together. |
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Jan 25th, 2008, 11:50 AM
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| I think there's something you're not telling us 
Courts do not take custody of your kids just for having an untidy house, otherwise none of us would have children (even the cleanest house sometimes gets messy when you have kids), neither do they take custody for being "a little depressed".
Come on fess up, what did they say to you before the court made the decision? |
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Jan 25th, 2008, 17:07 PM
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Originally Posted by StirCrazy I think there's something you're not telling us
Courts do not take custody of your kids just for having an untidy house, otherwise none of us would have children (even the cleanest house sometimes gets messy when you have kids), neither do they take custody for being "a little depressed".
Come on fess up, what did they say to you before the court made the decision? | Nothing. Do you want to see the alphadavid or whatever it's called? |
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