LaDY

For the ladies who read my last thread about my partner...my partner is still the same...madly in love with me...but is not ready to be a father. Iv begged and cried but he wont have any of it. I have been a emotional wreck throughout my whole pregnancy...now i am worried i have affected my baby
...I felt my little precious kick!!!! Its amazing...i love my baby so much. But due to this emotional trauma i didnt go to get my 20 week scan done...i just stayed in bed really down...and im now 23 weeks approximatly! I dont even know the results to my triple test as i moved out of the address i gave them
Do i contact my midwife and get it all sorted? I feel so silly...however it gets worse...i ended up at the doctors and sat and sobbed telling them my situation...im all alone with a baby that i cant afford. My family are going to disown me. He gave me a referral form for maria stopes...he was great and told me everything will be fine however what im doing could be a risk for my health. Im so confused, what do i do??

zblacasse

If you relationship is unstable and you cannot financially afford to raise a child would you considered adoption?

I know it would be the most difficult decision that you would ever have to make, but there are lots of people out there who would love to have a child to call their own and could possibly give it a better life.

If you do keep the baby would you have any sort of support system (friends) since you say that your parents will disown you?

kelly2903

oooohhh honey. big hugs what a loss to your partner. he's gonna miss the biggest miracle of his life UNLUCKY. there is help you can get with baby. for low earners and single parents things like council tax benifits maternity grants have a look into that and hopefully your entitled to some thing. and stress is no good for you you release little toxins and you bab bab will no when your sad but will also no when your happy and over the moon him/her. i had a stressfull first few months me and my partner where struggling about due to past effects long story and i was left cryin most days. i delt with by having long baths closing my eyes putting my ears under the water, and listening to the sounds of my heart cause thats what baby hears and just visulized a safe haven in my womb where nothing that happens here can get to bab bab. then with things like buying worrys getting things fifnshed for arrival. i used to go to bed get a pen an paper and write down a list of all the things i need to do and get for baby. ESSENSTIONALS.

reallytinyamy

Hi LaDY

I'm in a similar position as it looks like me and babies father cant keep it together no matter how much I want it. I dont know what I'm going to do either.

I dont have any answers for you sweetheart as I'm still trying to think about it all myself, But I just want to give you and let you know you're not the only one going through this termoil and the girls here are so supportive. we are here if you need to rant.

Good luck

Iwantone!!!

aawww hunni this must be so hard contact ur midwife find ur result try not to stress about ur OH he is the one missing out on the most preciuos thing in life that ever u will make u need to get a support network that will help get by i.e friend family mums groups there is more to life than he hes probably sh*tting himself as u and him have no ideda how ur lives our going to chnage when u give birth to that bundle of joy he is the one that will lose out on the first bottle nappy change wind the first time ur sick on hunni (((((((((hugs))))))))))