reallytinyamy

I have been suffering bad depression all weekend- I have a history of it. I have'nt eatten since friday can't stop crying just want to sleep but cant sleep etc etc.

Yesterday OH said he was going out for a bit. I thjought the space might help me so off he went (this is 3pm) He came back at 3:30am saying he'd "been with Danielle" and wouldn't talk to me. He was lucky enough to go to sleep, as you can probably imaging, I wasn't.

He woke up today and said he'd had enough of my 'moaning', 'complaining', 'always feeling ill', 'crying' and he was going out.... to see Danielle. He said he can't cope with me anymore, he's stressed cos I'm likely to lose my job and seeing my crying all the time doesn't help him. So now he's at Danielles again. I don't know her. He's turned his phone off. I don't know what to do except sit here and cry some more.

Why is he doing this?

Jayden'sMummy

First of all i know what its like to suffer depression etc. especially hard when mixed with pregnancy hormones, its good to have a cry and a moan sometimes, your OH should learn to be more patient with you and more understanding

If your OH if treating you like this "going out with Danielle" well i honestly don't think he is worth your tears, i would tell him were to get off
Things are hard for you right now I'm guessing, but things will work them selves out, if your OH wants to act like a dick ed, then treat him like one!

you know were all here for you on here. xx

Ellianna

Awww hun

I know it's easy for me to say but try to stay as positive as you can. Your OH is acting like a t***, but you don't know it's over.
Just cross each bridge as you come to it and don't assume the worst
On the other hand, he is being a dick; maybe you're better off without him?
Whatever happens, like Rachel said you know that we're all here for you and will be always.
Hope things get better for you babes
xx

Sweetie

I'm sorry to hear that he's being an ass, I really don't have any advice but I wanted to back the other girls on the fact that we're all hear to listen **hugs**

Samantha675

What a total shit. You are pregnant, it is not all fun and games. You are going to be in bad moods, you are going to cry, you are going to feel ill. That is just part of this whole gig. Sorry sweetie, but you do not need someone who is sooo obviously selfish.

Vickie

I don't really have any answers for you. Just wanted to send you a

Suz

Hun change the locks. He should support you not say he is going to go be with another woman. I really hope things get better for you....Try to eat something...

Lil_Baby_Boo

Him being like this obv cnt be helping. Do you have any one you can go and stay with who will support you while you decide if he really is worth it? Pregnancy is full of ups and downs for both parents but you have to support each other unless theres no point staying together!

You need to look after yourself and try and eat something if its small as if your not eating & looking after yourself then your not looking after baby!

Try and have some time to yourself & concentrate on baby, if your happier without your OH then so be it, its better your happy just u & ur LO than staying with this person because he's ur baby's dad!

Could it be ur OH making you more depressed?

xx

Samo

He sounds like a jerk sorry. That's horrible that he goes and spends his time with another woman and TELLS you he is as if it's no big deal. He should be supportive and thrilled that you two are expecting a LO. He really doesn't sound like someone to keep around...like others have asked, do you have anywhere else you can stay? With a relative or friend? Or can you kick him out and tell him to go live with "Danielle".

Find some positive friends and family to be around that will support you. His negative energy is not going to help you feel any better, hun, you deserve better than that. Maybe a break from each other will open his eyes, or atleast give you some closure.

good luck, babe.

reallytinyamy

Hey guys, thanks for your words of support, it is very much apppreciated. I managed to have a slice of toast and some beans at lunch time. I know its not much but its alll I could manage. Its better than nothing I guess.

I'm trying to decide if I should go and see my GP or see if it passes. My psychiatrist siad when I last saw him that there are anti depressants I can take safely during pregnancy if I need them as I came off my others before TTC but I don't want to take them unless I really have to.

I have my work hearing two weeks today so that will be hanging over me for a while, but see consultant tomorrow. I don't want to have my scan. I don't want to see the baby. I don't know if I should even have it. I know that is an awful thing to say and before I got pregnant I wanted nothing more than a baby, but with no job, no house, no money and a mess of a relationship is it the best thing for the baby?

I just don't know what to do for the best.