I feel quite bad saying this, because I know that some people have to do it all on their own and I'm really respect people who are doing that but I just feel like since I got pregnant everything has changed with me and my OH.

Its not even like I can say he's being unreasonable or anything, most of the time he's fine. It's just so hard going from being 17 with nothing really to worry about to the prospect of being parents and having to worry about where we're gona live, what we're going to do for money, childcare etc...
It just feels like so much to handle at the moment.

Sometimes we get on really well and it's just like normal, except we talk about baby names and what kind of place we want to live and stuff. Which is really nice because it feels like we're building our future together.
Then other time me and James just arn't getting on, we fight about the stupidest smallest things, and I can't even tell if it's my fault or his. How can we bring a baby into the world when we can't even agree on tiny things?
I think its probably me being unreasonable. Like tonight James went to the pub and even though he asked me if he could go and I said yes, I didn't want him to go but I wanted him to know that I wouldn't want him to go and stay at home because he wanted to be with me rather than me not letting him go. Does that make any sense to anybody??

And I know that it was us who made this situation etc etc and I am fully aware that it was our actions and now we're dealing with the consequences but it just feels like such a HUGE thing and wayy beyond what we can deal with. I'm so scared about letting out baby down and not being good parents. I so want to show people that we can do it and that we've made the right decision but at the moment I'm just feeling really doubtful.

Sorry guys, this is really long!
Thank you anyone who read it to the end

I guess I just really want to know if anyone has had any similar experiences or any advice as to what to do and where to go next?
xx

"Like tonight James went to the pub and even though he asked me if he could go and I said yes, I didn't want him to go but I wanted him to know that I wouldn't want him to go and stay at home because he wanted to be with me rather than me not letting him go. Does that make any sense to anybody??"

That made perfect sense to me then I read it to DH and he was like "huh?". Proof that only us women really know what we're thinking. Sometimes I wish men just knew the right answer without us giving it to them!

I am sure you will be a great parent especially since you are aware of the fact that its going to be a big responsibility.

It is a huge thing, but guess what, it is scary no matter how old you are. I will be almost 33 by the time my baby is born, and I have no idea if I will be a good parent. All I can do is try.

As for the OH. Of course you didn't want him to go, I hate it when my DH goes out without me, but do look at the fact that he asked. I think this is very important, and a lot of guys his age, would not have done so. I think this shows that he cares and repects you. As for fighting over the tiny detail, trust me that they really don't matter. Make the fights fun, be silly about it, and don't take it so seriously.

Me and OH are 27 and its the same for us. Its very stressful for both of us and it shows sometimes. I blame hormones- he blames me!! I think it just comes with the territory

at the end of the day there will always be things to disagree about
there will always be times that you wont get on
but if you will always try to be a loving partner and good responsible parents
no one can ask for more

no one is perfect, but when you do have concerns its good to try and address them, make plans and talk about how u feel

Oh hun, this sounds so familiar to me. When I was in my first trimester and beginning my second as well, I was horrid to live with. My poor DH couldn't seem to do anything right because I would pick at him for everything he did. I would get upset if he went out, even when I said it was alright. I reasoned with myself and realized I was being ridiculous and hurting my hubby. Our hormones are raging throughout pregnancy, and it turns us into nasty people. That's one thing I definitely won't miss!

I hope you two get things settled. Having a baby is going to change your life, but not just in "bad" ways... this baby may just end up meaning the whole world to you. I'm sure you'll be fantastic! Don't keep overthinking about the bad things, they will just get you down. Just think about first cuddles, first smiles, first hugs, first "i love you mommy"s. This little adventure will be the best!

Aww hun. I know exactly how u feel. I'm having probs with my OH at the min (U should read my rant-might make u feel better lol.) I understand exactly what u mean about the pub issue, that happens in our house all the while and my OH doesnt see my point AT ALL. its a man thing!

Try not to let things get to you too much. Ur hormones are gonna be all over the place and accepting that ur havin a baby together is a huge thing for all of us old and young. Bein a parent is really gonna test ur relationship cus its a massive change for u both and emotions are gonna be all over the place.

But if u2 are ment to b, ull both get through this. Im sure ull be a great mum, ur aware of the responsibilities that come with a baby and the fact your concerned about ur relationship and sorting out your future shows in my eyes your mature and i think you'll be just fine. I hope u2 sort things out hun. xxx

makes perfect sence huni it must be are and stressful as ur whole life will change and u cant really plan for the change i,e how it will effect u and u dont know how much effect it will have on u both so ur right to be worry an i dont think its unnormal at all am i totally understand what u mean about him going to be pub but not really wanting him to