Why is it that men can do whatever they please and no-one has to say a f-in word about it.
since my oh's brother has moved in along the street, my oh has taken to going around there every nite, he comes in from work, has his tea, has a bath gets ready and f*#ks off out. This is everynite. So i am left to get kids bathed, ready for bed, tidy up, the list goes on. Then he's got the nerve to stress on me cos im abit stressed out.
its not just on a nite tho, its every weekend also. He thinks its ok that he spends an hour with me and kids. If i say anything to him tho, he has a major strop and says "i live with u, i see you every day." !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It just makes me think that he'd rather be elsewhere than with me and says an awful lot about our relationship.
We've been together for 7yrs in april and ive stood by him thru everything. But he treats me like shit and the worst thing is i let him!
Dont get much help of anyone with the kids, my parents are going thru a divorce so dont want to put on them and his parents are a complete waste of space. Callum is nearly 6 weeks old and they have seen him 4 times, they only live down the road, literally 5 mins away. We went to his mams on 2nd january and she thought callum was only 2 weeks old!!! He was 4 1/2!!!!
Men just don't think sometimes, or they do think but its...'hmmm, I wonder how many beers I've got left' or 'I wonder how well I'll do on Champion ship manager/pro evolution tonight?'
When he's due in, run yourself a nice bath - jump in as he walks through the door and tell him you've left a list of Chores on the fridge, that need doing TONIGHT!!!
When he starts moaning, tell him you do it everynight while he's out!
If he still goes out then I'd just "accidently on perphas" lock him out!!!
aaww that terrible i would do role reversal i would put tea in the oven and as soon as he walks through the door u walk out and go see ur mate dont tel him just say hi babe im off out tea is in the oven and kids need to bath tea and lets see how he feels and does ur job for a night good luck babe (((((hugs))))
I think ive had enough now, i deserve better. I really dont think he wants to be here with us at all, well i know he doesnt its just the fact that he's got nowhere else to live that he's still here.
Im fed up of bending over backwards to make sure he's happy even tho im not. The only time he takes both kids out is when i need to catch up on housework!!!!!!
pack his bags, i would, but first you should be all dressed up when he gets home and as he comes in say ur going out and tell him not to wait up aswell, cheeky sod! if u really think hes just with u for sumwer to live etc then id get rid, i done the same with my OH when i was about 3 months pregnant, were back together now but we still live seperatley because hes gona learn the hard way for taking the piss, and if wen hes got sumwer else to live he comes back to u then uno hes worth it rather than in another 7 years him walking through the door and telling u hes been with somebody else or something, the same thing happened to my cousin on new years eve, actually the tw@t waited till to let the new year in with her and then stood up at half 12 and told her he didnt feel the same he hadnt for a while etc and walked out, shed just got a morgage and everythn n paid for a wedding, he was doing the same coming home from work and going to bed or going back out or not coming in atall and turning his phone off. hes crawling back already. if u love sum1 and dont know if they love u i suppose uve gotta let them go its the only way to know for sure if they care if u have doubts i think.
i hope ur ok anyway! im sure woteva happens u will cope as it seems ur doing alot on ur own anyway xxx
Hardly sees you much tho does he, even if he does see you everyday, if he works all day then goes out for night! Put your foot down and tell him aint off out every night!
Well after having a HUGE argument yesterday, we've kinda sorted things out. He's gonna spend more time with us and stop going to his brother every nite. We'll see how long it lasts, hopefully forever!
Yeah it has. I dont mind him going out, if he was in all the time it would do my head in, it's just that it would be nice to have a couple of nites a week where he stayed in with me and would be nice for kids too, especially nicole, she's a real daddys girl!
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