totally agree that he should ot talked it trough hunni its a big desion and it affects u all even if hes trying to make a better life for u all however its out of order hope u come to a compermise

I would be upset too! That is definetly something you discuss with your OH before doing. He needs to realize how his decision affects you two as well.

I would be well pissed off too.
I believe any decision like this should be a joint one even if your not working. It's totally unacceptable for someone else to make a life changing decision for you and then use the "if you love me" card to get you to comply.
Bollocks
That's what I say...
You have every right to be annoyed

Ok well we made a decision I am really missing my family spend most of my time crying about it and its really bothering me so we have decided that at the end of august I will go home with Raven and Bump and DH wil stay to finish the first set of training and then follow us home.
Don't know if I can survive without him but he will be home every 3 months and every holiday so hopefully it will work xoxoxoxoxoxox

Good luck! I hope it works out for you