MarchBaby

Jamie's mom really topped her "I hate Summer" score this christmas.
See, my mom buys for Jamie and me, together as a couple. However, his mom buys for us seperate (she likes to make everything for us seperate.. long story). So she buys Jamie a whole bunch of presents, spends like 100+ dollars on him; and then buys me one thing for like -10$ (she tells us how much she spends ?!?!?). Like, it's so noticably that she doesn't buy me anything, that Jamie hands me some of his presents to open!!
Well, she waits until he leaves the room, and justifies this by saying, "This christmas is Jamie's time to shine, you will have a baby shower!!"
WTF?
I said, "The baby shower will be for us both, Jamie will be there because I want him there."
and she said, "Well, my family just doesn't understand that"
Whats not to understand?! It's OUR baby, and I want him there WITH ME!
Besides that, the baby shower is for the baby, it's not like I get stuff at the baby shower. I might get excited, because it's like YES, now we dont have to buy this stuff!!
and 2nd of all, this is the last christmas people (in my family anyways) are actually buying for Me and Jamie. Next year will be all about the baby because it's the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby/etc.
I told Jamie the other day in the car what she had said to me when he left the room, and he was like "she didn't mean it like that" blah blah blah. I was like, WTF did she mean then? He didn't have a response, he was just like "she doesn't hate you.. etc etc"
I truely believe she does. Ever since I have been pregnant, she is the only one not excited about the baby. She is the only one telling everyone she wishes we weren't having it now. And she is the only one that told me anything remotely similar to get rid of it (she told me to go ask the doctor for a pill to start my period). I know she hates me.

nikkybaby

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you have to deal with all that crap from her.

skiwi

why are some MIL a pain in the bum.... so sorry for what she is putting you threw, have you tried to talk to her and tell her how she makes you feel x x

MarchBaby

Nobody can talk to her.. she says that she can do whatever she wants, nobody can tell her what to do. Thats how she is when we try and tell her that we dont want our 5 pound dog eating chocolate and sweets, and everything else she can pull out of the refridgerator/off her plate and give him. She just doesn't care about what anyone has to say.

Samo

My own mother had issues with my hubby from day 1. He kept on smiling and being cheery and she eventually came around to accept that he was here to stay. Just keep smiling and be happy and show her you are happy where you are and you're not going anywhere!

justme00

Wow she sounds like a total biatch. I'm sorry.

Suz

Wow that sounds aweful. Sorry your MIL is like that

Iwantone!!!

can i ask is he an only child by chance the only reason i ask is my oh mother is excatley the same we have now been together for nearly 4yrs and to this day she has never ever brought us a gift as a couple she again seens us as to totally sperate ppl i no we are but we our a couple i feel that his mum sees me as the ememy taking her son away from her and mothers dont like there sons to have more than one woman in there life i totally understand where ur coming its so bloody frustrating so this is the soultion smiles be a nice as u can dont let her see shes getting to u as it will wind her up even more i would of said to her with the comment she said about wanting jamie to shine i would of replied its nice that u think jamie needs to shine even thou hes x (age) well next year me and him will be shinning together our new born baby it will be amazing dont take it to heart she thinks ur the woman thats trying to replace her and take her place which its far from it also another tip dont slag his mum off in front of him as i can tel u from personal experience it causes so many arguments i have found if u please his mum ur the good guy i got oh mother lovely presents and i got a txt off oh saying u have made my mum so happy thank u love u loads and loads hun just grin and bare it be nice as pie as she cant fault u then xxxx

Samantha675

I am so sorry hun.

Imi

Darling, take it from me the one thing to wind her up even more??

Be nice as pie!!!

Honest works a charm, and to see the pished off look on her face as your doing it is great cause your OH on your side the WHOLE time!!!

Don't let her get to you hun honestly, she is sooooooo not worth it!!

Don't stress, be calm for baby Smile hun

xxx