anita665

My Fiance quit his job a few months ago and we have been spending a lot of time together ever since. Suprisingly we haven't killed each other.

Anyway he has to get a job after Christmas and that will mean him going to work away for a week or more at a time. I'm really not looking forward to it. I live in a terrible area and only have 1 friend here. My family and friends are all 2 hours away and I don't drive so I'm going to be very lonely and very missing him .

I know it's silly and I can trust him but in the back of my mind are niggling thoughts about what he might get up to aswell since he's away so long and staying in a hotel. Unfortunatly I've worked in a couple and spent some of my wildest days (and nights) in them and know how easy it is if you have a sneaky free bar after closing and bedrooms just upstairs. I've seen far too many guys cheating on their partners while working away and too many members of staff getting it on (if hotel walls could speak). What makes it worse is I know he's done it all before too and far worse.

I know he seems settled now and he's looking forward to meeting our baby but these things are still going to be going through my mind and it doesn't help that I'm getting fatter by the day.

Sorry guys, just had to get that off my chest.

Wobbles

I am the same in thoughts with things like this - although deep down in my heart I trust my OH theres the moment of time where your not digging deep your insecurities kick in won't help if you are uncomfortable where you live. Can you not move? I hate being insecure in my own home too and have in the past (bad areas).

anita665

We do plan to move but we have to wait for him to be working again before we can because we rent and they always want refs from your employer. Hopefully it will only be for a few weeks that he'll have to work away before we can move.

RachiePachie

Why does he have to go away a week at a time - couldn't he get a job closer to home and no trips.

VanWest

I know how you feel my DH has been away for work for his new job since Nov 26th. He only comes home on weekends. It will be very hard the first week, I cried the whole week. But just to let you know it does get easier.

Jamie

It will be hard at first but once you settle into your own routine- you will get used to it! Def keep everything locked at your place and keep a phone nearby just incase!

Mynxie

oh sweetie (((hugs))) I think it's natural to feel like that, you get paranoid and think irrational thoughts when you love someone...

"what if x, y or z has happened?"
"what if they do....?"

etc etc

it's just cause you love him that you feel that way x

Lil_Baby_Boo

Are you working at the mo?

If not have you thought about going with him & staying in the hotel? Maybe not all week if you didn't want? It should'nt cost you anything extra (I'm assuming the accomodation has been paid for through his work?)

My Manager comes down from Edinburgh to Chester and quite often brings his wife & sometimes daughter, obv he has to pay for their food but thats all!

My OH had to go to USA to work for 3 months, I knew I couldn't be without him so he got me a flight!!

Its better than you getting yourself all worked up thinking things!

Tilly

Im the same! I had jealous little thoughts because my boyfriend went to his work do the other night and said he'd be an hour or two, but ended up being about 3! I was worrying, what if he's chatting to a girl? what if he likes her? He also went on a training course about 4 hours away and only came back on weekends (he was gone for 3 lots of 5 days).. and would tell me about the guys cheating on their girlfriends there and id get paranoid and upset, even though I know he wouldn't do that to me!

I probably won't offer the best advice, since im as bad as you.. but im sure if he loves you and you're expecting his baby.. he won't do anything! As lil_baby_boo said - can't you go with him? my boyfriend said if he ever goes away again, me and Bethanie are going too as it was too much.

missjess

I'm in the same situation as you are! My boyfriend works as a motorsport engineer and is away 2-3 weeks at a time... The last few month have been th off-season so it was very quiet, we were home together all the time and I got used to it... Now the season is starting again and he left yesterday for 3 weeks ... I couldn't help crying the whole day. It's so hard.

I'm now on maternity leave so I spend all my days at home, I gotta figure a way to keep myself busy... !!

I really feel for you !!!!