charlottecco2

Can someone tell me if i am being completely irrational or not, because it may be just hormones but i really don't think I am.

I don't think its fair that I have to give up loads of stuff during pregnancy and be wrapped up in cotton wall and not allowed to things.

Fiance told me he wasn't going to drink till bubba was born. Because it was only fair that if i had to give it up then so did he.

Yet now one of my fiances friends is leaving to go back to australia, and we have been invited to his leaving party on dec 28th. Which i was happy to go to if we weren't drinking. (I wouldn't be the only one sober)

Yet now he has said hes going to drink.
I Know i may be being unreasonable, but don't find it fair that he can just change his mind that he's going to drink all of a sudden. Its not like I can just change my mind and drink. Its his child as well, why should i be the only one who has to sacrafice stuff, seems so unfair???

Am i being petty?? xxxx

Samantha675

My husband flat refused to quit drinking. Even though I asked him to. So for me, if he was just drinking the one night I would be well happy.

charlottecco2

Thanks Yes i suppose you are right, think its because we have never been big drinkers. So he hasn't had to sacrafice it up to now because we never used to go out drinking anway. Think i was more annoyed that this will be the first situation he will be in where he could prove he'd given up alcohol and hes no going too, so in my realistically he has not given up alcohol at all.

Think my hormones are making it seem worse to me., xx

CK Too

I know how you feel Charlotte. Even whilst we were still talking about having a baby I told the OH that if I had to give up drinking for 9 months then so did he!!!!

Tbh, I think the main reason was that I would find it difficult giving up alcohol, and I didn´t want him to drink in front of me in case it was like rubbing my nose in it that I couldn´t drink anything. He has been pretty good about it, not completely given up, but cut down quite a bit - not that we´re alcoholics or anything!!! I´ve not found it difficult to not drink alcohol at all - I had half a glass of white wine with my meal the other day (shame on me) but I didn´t enjoy it, it tasted odd!! - so I´ve told the OH he can drink in front of me if he wants to now!

avistar

I don't think that you are being unreasonable...and he should be sensitive to how you are feeling. My friend that is pg is having the same troubles with not smoking and drinking. She feels very alone because her bf still is keeping on. My DH told me that he would stop smoking when I get preg and I really think it would be a huge motivation for him since he does want to quit (of course). I would be more upset with him not trying to stop smoking...but in your case, I think he should talk to you about why he wants to drink and be honest instead of saying..."yeah I will stop drinking to be supportive" when he doesn't really feel that way to begin with. I sometimes think men just figure that they can do what they always have done since they can't become preg and it is just a burden for women to share....

charlottecco2

Thank you its nice that someone can see where I am coming from, men have it so easy. And sometimes would just like my feelings to be taken in to account xx

Newt

I think a little....(sorry you did ask) *ducks*

I know it's frustrating hun but he is kind of saying bye to someone, and my doG at 12 weeks hormones are going bonkers......but just think, you will remember everything and be able to tease and taunt him for ages about what he gets up to. I don't mind boyf drinking, in fact I find it funny, it does annoy me that he still smokes though, but I banish him out of the room

I'm sure you will have fun too, just think of the reward you will have at the end of it

Iwantone!!!

i think its annoying as he said hat he wouldnot drink and now he is coz his mates eaving i would just ask whats made him change his mine to now drink and that u feel upset that he has broke his promise guilt trip works all the time hhehe

charlottecco2

Thanks, no need to be sorry i really appreciate hearing other ppls perspectives and opinions, can sometimes be a little bit selfish, so need ppl to tell me if i am being petty. xx

charlottecco2

The thing is I don't mind if he has a couple of drinks, he does all the time. But don't want him to get blindingly drunk, and then start demanding sex because hes drunk and horny. grrrrr that will annoy me xx