Sarah_16x

Okie where do i start.......

In september my dad and mum split up and my dad moved out the only person i really got on with in the house was my dad. My mum and sister used to gang up on me. For a few weeks my mum and i always argued and i was crying every single day. i decided i couldnt take the arguin nemore my dad wasent there to stick up for me. i felt as if i had no one my other family live 200 miles away (my grandad, nan, aunties, uncles, cousins). My mum told me to get out so i was about to leave nd she pushed me out the door and trapped the back of my foot in the door it was bleeding nd my skin come off. I rang up ian and he come and got me in the car and said i could live with him i was so upset that night i saw a bottle of vodka in the back of the car and necked half the bottle. That night my dad come from where he is living now which is a 1 bedroom bedsit and come and got me and took me back to my mums. My mum continued to have a go at me the next day and i finally moved in with ian the next day for good.

Me and ian started going out together and then i got pregnant i dident tell my parents because i thought they would go mad at meh as im only 16. We told ians mum and dad and they was a bit shocked at first but are okie with it now. Since my mum and dad split up my mums had this tarrat card reader round and on the phone the tarrat card reader said to my mum that one of your daughters are pregnant and its the one with the light coloured hair which is me and that im having a boy. I started coming round because i got a phone call of my sister and she had split up with her bf (they been together for 4 years) and was crying to me. When i come round my mum said to me have you got anything to tell me i said no she goes well ive found out your pregnant.

My bf has this newish job and i dont like him having it at all theres only about 4 boys that work there and the rest are girls. He started coming back for his breaks because he had 2 hour breaks but recently he has stopped coming back. I ring him in his breaks and hes like can you ring me back later because ive gone for a meal with either his boss shes only like (24) or some other girl. Then sometimes i ring him he has spoke to me like S... and hung up on me when i can hear people in the background. My sister and her mate come out for a meal with me where my bf works and my sisters mate said which is ur bf and i showed her and i goes omg he is flirting and she looked and she goes asif. We got to the table and my sister had a bite out of her food then started crying saying why dont you get rid of the baby hes only going to leave you and when he does no one will want you with a baby.

Aloud of people think my sister is a total B**** but i can understand where she is coming from and my sister aint 1 at all she speaks the truth. well she can be 1 sometimes. Anyways the other day i wasent in a good mood at all me and my bf had a row he told meh to leave then i went to my mums that day because i was p***** off and my mum goes stop coming round and my sister said why do u keep coming round for mum kicked you out because she hates you and then another time my sister said that my mum only likes me because im pregnant. And then i went out my mums house crying and wen to my ians he said he dont want me to move out nemore.

Then today we have had another row and he said you can leave and i will claim custerdey (soz about spelling) over the baby when its born. Then he text me in his break saying what time is the scan because i have one a week 2day. And i goes it dont matter does it you dident come last one so why should i let you come to this one and he said im coming to this scan whether you like it or not. Then my mum goes after today dont come round again (im at my mums now because ians at work) Then i just text him sayin il find a bedsit 2night then and he aint text back. I dont know what to do

Carolina

first of all , your having a bad time at the minute and im sure you are feeling stressed out! is there any way you could live with your dad as you have a good relationship with him? What age is your boyfriend? Do you think you would be able to sit him down and calmly tell him how you feel about him but how sometimes he doesnt treat you right (the phone calls etc). Im sure your hormones are going mad and it may be difficult to saty calm if hes being an ass but if your talk to him softly and nicely maybe he will not overreact and then he would be more likely to tell you how he is feeling.

As for your mum and sister, your sister probably said that your mum only likes you because your pregant because shes a bit jealous, you have a boyfriend and a baby on the way. As for your mum have you been giving her any grief or reason to act so angry and throw you out etc? Maybe shes taking the break up with your dad badly and is taking it out on you a bit (not that she should be!).

Jules

Have you actually told your mum your pregnant??? Have you told your dad?

If you haven't i think you need to tell them and have a chat with them. Its not fair to you or the baby to be having all this stress, its hard enough being pregnant as it is! xxx

coccyx

Oh you poor thing. Think you should keep away from sis for time being. As they say, if you can't say anything nice ,don't say anything at all. May be worth having a one to one honest talk with your mum, she may be under alot of stress herself. Great that boyfriend is working and can provide for you and baby. Has he given you any reason not to trust him? World is full of women, need to back off and show you trust him. Have a chat with your dad, see if he can help. Take care of yourself and that bump. people often say things when angry, worried or unsure that they don't mean Good luck

Sarah_16x

My boyfriend is 18 and nope i havent been giving my mum grief we have never got on that much. when me dad lived there it always used to be him sticking up for me and he knows what she is like.

Sarah_16x

Yeh i told my dad first and my dad was going to come with me to tell my mum but when we got to the house she was in a bad mood so we left it. Anyways a couple of days later i was going to tell her but she found out by the tarrat card reader.

Sarah_16x

well he hasent give me reasons not to trust him as such its just little things like him going for his breaks at work with other girls for meals instead of coming back. And whenever i phone him on his breaks i can hear girls he gets lifts off girls. He went to a xmas work do he new i dident want him to go and he did he said he would only go for 2 pints and he wudent be back any later then 12 me and his mum went to asda then tesco. we got to tesco at 2:30am because its open 24/7 and he was there with another girl and a lad and the girl had his jacket. Then he come in the shop and his trousers were undun he was p***** out of his head. I wlked off crying then his mum got in the car and drove down and he ran after me and told me to get in the car so i did. Just things like that and like he finishes work at 9:30pm and gets back at 12:30 when it closes at 11:20 and its not far from house.

Iwantone!!!

things not adding up with ur boyfriend do u think he is scared so he is abusing the fact that he can go out and leave u at home coz he knows in 8months time that he will not be able to go out as much is there no friends taht would help uout hunni i just want to give u a big hunni u have this amazingthing happening inside u and it looks liek expect from ur dad u have no support ru still at school or college is there no one there that can guiide u where to how to get help and support can ur dad not get a flat and u have the spare room hunni i hpe everything settles soon xx