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Jan 26th, 2008, 09:43 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Quote:
Originally Posted by Leannex  Hey
anyone elses partner changed while they were pregnant/or are pregnant??
anyone partner not the want a baby, because you kept it, continues to you blame you for screwing them over?
partner, doesnt care? seems like their stuck in middle between unborn child and their partner?
but still thinks world of you, and still lets you know how much they still love you? am i being blind or stupid for stopping in this relationship?
I feel like im going out of my mind! i've had no support from my partner and constant blame i did the pregnancy on purpose, even though fell pregnant on the pill...
sorry for moaning, but need talk about it...
|  WERE HERE FOR YOU TO MOAN TO, OTHER WISE YOU WILL GO MENTAL LOL. FIRST OFF I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND ITS NOT NICE ONE BIT, AND NOW AM GOING IT ALONE, BUT HOPEFULLY YOU AND YOUR OH WILL WORK SOMETHING OUT, HE IS PROBABLY STILL IN SHOCK, EITHER WAY HE HAS GOT TO GET USED TO THE FACT HE IS GOING TO BE A DAD AND NEEDS TO GET OVER HIMSELF. HOPE YOU BOTH WORK IT OUT XXX |
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Jan 26th, 2008, 11:24 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | It sounds like he's just having a hard time getting used to the idea of being a dad which is suprisingly common.
Women seem to accept the changes more easily than men (especially young men).
My OH is 32 & we planned to have kids but as soon as I got a BFP he totally changed. He was saying it will ruin his life, he isn't ready & now he never wants kids. He was trying to get me to have a termination. It put a lot of strain on our r/ship but eventually he calmed down and accepted it. Now he's really excited and already planning the next one.
It sounds like aside from this you have a good r/ship so I'd hang in there if you can because I'm sure he'll feel differently eventually. |
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Sep 23rd, 2008, 18:50 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | With my second my ex OH told me he didn't want another baby (even though we hadn't been using protection) wouldn't come near me for the majority of the pregnancy (didn't even come to the scans!) and blamed me for ruining his life pretty much. He wouldn't listen to me and i couldn't talk to him at all about it, because he'd get in a huff and bugger off down the pub!!
I'm actually glad to say that we split up after bubs was born because he was an (excuse my language) a complete arse about everything and we just couldn't move past it (well that and the fact that he was a lying cheating scumbag!! lol)
You need to sit and talk to him about how you're feeling. If he's responsible and grown up enough to have sex then he needs to deal with the consequences. Whether he's ready for a baby or not, he's going to be a dad and needs to face up to that fact and be supportive.
*BIG HUGS* Hope you get it sorted. xxx |
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Sep 23rd, 2008, 18:54 PM
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