goldlion

Not sure what else I can say to you then, hope you are able to work it out.

nikkybaby

Believe me...I understand. I have gotten into many fights with OH and it would take me a little while to realize its my fault. I'm telling you, this pregnancy thing can mess with you. In the end though, I would end up apologizing for acting like a crazy lady. Just try to take it easy. If you guys need time apart, take some time apart. Whatever will help, you know. I hope things get better for you.

Mango

Keep trying! Communication is the most important thing. Sometimes it takes multiple tries. My OH had a very difficult time early in my pregnancy too and looking back, the sickness and just not feeling myself coupled with the hormones made me very fussy and irritable to the point where I'd cry over the slightest of things. It's really hard to recognise it when it's happening but looking back I can see it. So keep trying, and try to be aware of how you're reacting at times.

Layla

i agree wtih yvanne and the other girls, its your hormoes playing up.

I gave JAse such a hard time in the beinging of the pregnancy but of course i couldnt see it, as far as i was conserned it was all him, he was acting like a child, he was being horrible, nothing to do with me.

As time went on and my hormoes calmed down i relased it was me and not him, he put up with such a lot from me im suprised he stuck around.

hopefuly things will ease off soon

x

Linzi

I give my OH such a hard time too and I constantly have to keep apologising to him. Ive been a complete nightmare.

You seem to think that theres nothing more you can do about the relationship and if thats the way you feel, I would say end it because tbh it sounds like it's giving you more stress than you need. Just because he's not your boyfriend doesn't mean he can't be involved in the baby's life. Theres hundreds of couples in that situation and, although its not ideal, they cope.

You just need to ask yourself do you still love him? At the end of the day, no one here can tell you what to do, but I think you know deep down what you want to happen.

But I hope it does work out for the best If you need to vent, drop me a line

xxx

toriaaaaTRASH

He already told me if me and him finish he won't be in the babies life and that he hopes I can do it on my own. I did love him? I'm not so sure now. I can't decide between hormones and real feelings anymore

Stef

Toria im not being funny but it sounds like you both need your heads banging together.

Perhaps it is you and he is feeling pushed away and saying these things because he wants you to hurt because you're hurting him with your emotions.

He also maybe very scared of what the future might hold. No one knows how to be good parents and it can be very daunting to think that bubs is dependant on everything you both do.

Perhaps he is cross. he may come round but I think you need to have a civilised conversation with each other with no if's but buts or he does this or he does that. It could be a mixture of both of you at the moment. Its a tough time im not denying that but as the other girls has said it plays with your emotions so much that all of us admit to being awful when PG.

I hope that im not wrong and i would pay a full appolgie if I am but honestly... Yes somethings he says sound harsh if he has said them but he might be hurting too...

To me it sounds like he is wanting to provide for you and bubs, If my OH wanted his mam around i'd be quite annoyed too and vice versa.

Im not saying don't have your mam around in your sons life. But perhaps she could hold back a little in the background to give you all a proper time to bond and be there if she is needed

If I was you i'd have along chat with him. See if you cant get down to the bottom of it all.

You do sound so hot headed in some of your posts and seem to be very stressed with things. Sit back, relax, and make sure you discuss problems before making matters worse.

danielle19

tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels
communication is a great healer hun xxxxx

Jenny

Honestly hon, I think you're just taking things badly because of your hormones. I know I was a total **** to my hubby when I was pregnant with Drake and with this pregnancy. Also, try not to communicate with texting, talking is the best way as writing its just easier to blow off like he did.

I think he's said things to hurt you back because of the way you're reacting to things atm. I highly doubt he meant what he said about leaving you alone with the baby. You said a few weeks ago that he wants you move in, honestly it sounds very defensive. Remember, he's also terrified (even though he might not admit it) about having a baby, I think most men are. Its a HUGE responsability but it sounds like he really loves you because he is still around and wants to give it a go.

All I can really say is give it time, try not to argue. If he brings things up, tell him you don't want to talk about it right now or you might get upset. If you snap at him and realize it was just you being hormonal, apologize. If he's being a jerk after you let him know how you're feeling, tell him so and tell him to talk to you when he's calmed down. Sometimes both of you just need some space but communication is the key hon. I hope all goes well and you guys can kiss and make up.

Jules

Hi Toria

I remember from previous threads what you have said about your OH and i don't think its all you, he does sound like he needs to grow up a bit!

you may have gotten a little crazy with being pregnant i know i have! but its a bit childish to say things like "if you finish with me i wont be in babies life" blah blah

hope your ok x