toriaaaaTRASH

Thanks guys. He rang and we spoke about it. He's being so selfish lately and I feel like I've known him 4years but don't really know him? Maybe it's my hormones over-reacting but I don't want to make life changing decisions right now. My midwife said not to make any decisions till I'm 100% comfortable that's why I told him I'm not sure I'm ready. I don't know if I am yet! We'll see what happens and he'll just have to deal!

Imi

Oh hun just tell him to get a grip ...

He's not the number one priority anymore!

Cheer up sweetie and concentrate on you and LO, get rest and let the rents spoil you!

xxx

Tilly

I agree, you will need all the help you can get.. having a baby is tiring enough, so an extra pair of hands can help out a lot. I stayed at my mums for a few weeks after giving birth and im glad I did.

Sounds like your OH is being a bit selfish and immature, don't let him pressure you.

toriaaaaTRASH

Hes 24 in Jan and he acts like a 14 year old boy. He even "whatever'd" me earlier. I was like if you havn't gone back to your teenage years I suggest you don't whatever me ! It made me so angry. He never agrees with anything I say unless someone else agrees with me or if he reads it somewhere. I tried telling him that it wasn't my fault I was pushing him away and that sometimes it can be caused by the hormones and stuff and that it'd be ok after a while and he went PSYCHO at me but then he read it somewhere and was like "oh, maybe you were right." Of course I was right, I'm a woman? Jeeeeez. And, when I found out I was pregnant and I told him I was keeping it he was adiment I should get rid of it untill his mum told him she was completely against abortion and was glad we were doing the right thing. He even managed to make it sound like it was HIS idea to keep it! I just wish he'd listen to me

Wobbles

Blimey its usually the bloke not wanting to do the moving out getting a place starting a family thing lol

Hate to say it because of other replies but I personally think looking forward starting a family, home etc is important. Got yaself into that mess type thing can't expect Mummy to bail you out although knowing help is there is great like Tilly had and could stay with her Mum for a while but sounds to me like he wants to start a life with you and baby - Sorry I don't find that selfish!

toriaaaaTRASH

No, I know what you mean. I told him it won't be forever and I have no problem moving in with him after the first 2 weeks. I just want my mum around for abit. I'm sure we'll sort something. Maybe if I move in with him then she comes to stay for abit when the buba is born? I don't know but I'll make my mind up eventually

Wobbles

Don't get me wrong I think his reaction to it isn't the best but if you think about it in your own heart is it just because he wants it to be you, him, baby = family (I think thats great and not selfish if it is selfish then why not be allowed type thing). I think thats quite sweet really. And men have little like us only we have BIG to things like this if its us who suggest it first

Sorry if that sounded too blunt! x

toriaaaaTRASH

No I agree and if he was the complete opposite I'd feel so bad but I just want to be sure that I'm doing the right thing before I give him the yes or no

Wobbles

Your a bump too late for the right thing?

toriaaaaTRASH

True! Very true! I guess I'm over-reacting lol