I am hormonal and confused at the mo as you prob all know the situation but I just wanted to know your opinions as baby is on way soon and I need to get settled.

If he cheated on you when pregnant, caught an STD from the girl, moved in with her and got engaged just to get back at you for saying you didnt want him. You still loved eachother despite the fact you had a destructive relationship and didnt have a spark there plus you had cheated on him too. Would you go back and work things out knowing he had commitment issues but had never cheated before?

sorry but no, i couldnt. this is my own personal opinion. no way could i go back to a guy who hurt me so bad, especially when i was carrying his child!!!

No way sweetie, and thats just based on the cheating not all the other stuff

I think I would maybe if he'd just cheated and realised his mistake (grovelled over these months/proved he loved you) but he decided to get back at you (wtf alone) for making you feel betrayed. He moved her into you home didn't he, bought her diamonds etc. Based on that don't think I could but can't say I wouldn't in your shoes for definate with expecting a baby to this man, wanting a family together it can't be the easiest of decisions.

Like you have said its a mistake you have made & hes forgiven I'm guessing but has this little cheating session gone a bit far?

Miss M just read back, you say you cheated on him? when was this, just so i can get straight in my head, he was with her wasn't he?

If it was just the cheating I would probably take him back. However, if he put my baby's health at risk through the STI as well as getting engaged etc. I would not take him back. I would not think it a good idea to introduce a child into a destructive relationship as I believe it could be damaging for the child. However I would do my utmost to maintain a civil and positive platonic relationship with him for the sake of the child.

I had a fling with this french bloke 3 years ago as he was paying me atention and bringing in love letters to my work to woo me. I was with Phil for 10 years and getting impatient waiting for commitment and my mates were telling me to move on. We didnt have a proper affair but I slept with him the once and then he moved back to France and OH said he could give me what I wanted which was a baby and marriage. I had a one night stand as well which I am not proud of and I was still in lust with this french guy but tryed for a baby with Phil and later miscarried which made me depressed but deep down I wondered if it was an omen to get out. It brought us closer but I became depressed and went off sex for 6 months after the miscarriage and then he said I demanded it all the time as I wanted a baby so bad. I was then made redundant and my sister fell pregnant and got engaged.

After he told me he had met someone else I had found out that the french guy was back and I got in contact and we grew closer as he showed me attention that my ex didnt give me. I told my ex that I was seeing him again and he said if I didnt want him back then he would try to make it work with her but he still loved me like I did him. I think it really hurt him to think that I went back to the same bloke who split us up before so I can see how he feels.

We have got relate booked next week to try to sort out our differences and move on for our daughter. The trouble is the trust and I feel deeply hurt still.

Sorry, short and sweet............NO WAY..........STI's, Engaged??? Not a chance.

i personaly couldnt.

I love Jase to bits and will always love him, but if he ever cheated on me i know i couldnt be with him again, it would hurt me loads not being with him, but it would hurt me more being with him and pictureing the other woman and things in my mind everytime he came near me.

x

I'm really sorry but this doensnt sound like a relationship that would work.
STI's, then getting engaged, just to get back at you all seems a bit childish.
You say the relationship was destructive? would it go back to that and would you want to bring a child in to that?