miss maternal

Well I was right as OH is making an effort with me and baby Isabelle but I am now wondering if this is what I want as I do feel content living back here but he still shows me no affection. I miss my french friend who I havent seen for over a month but he says that the baby will give me all the love and happiness that I need. My OH can show his feelings towards the baby but not me so easily which makes me think he doesnt love me although he tells me he does I still think about what he done to me and it hurts so much. I know that things wouldnt have worked out with the french guy as he was into drugs and partying but he made me feel good about myself and showed me love. I have got settled in again with baby and dont want to unsettle her so I guess I should see if things change and forget about my french friend.
I love my daughter so much and she is such a content baby and I want her to have the love and support form both parents as we both deeply love her and she has brought so much joy into our lives.

I suppose you only want what you cant get!!!

FJL

Sorry to hear you're going through a rough time MM. Sorry to bring back old things but i'm not familiar with this situtaton (must've missed it). So did OH cheat on you, or you with him and this french guy?

To answer your question though of would I give my DH a second chance if he cheated on me? That is almost impossible for me to answer because I trust him absolutely 110% no questions asked, and him with me too. I just could never imagine him breaking that trust, we're both HUGE on fidelity and monogomy.

I always say that I would never put up with a cheating man, but I love DH so much that even if he did, I don't know if I could let him go? I'd like to think that I could, but in reality, he is my world. He views me exactly the same. If it did happen, honestly, I would find it very hard if not impossible to trust him ever again. I say that because I am naturally a very trusting person, but should someone break that trust, then that is that.

I hope everything works out for you MM

Linzi

I was in a relationship with my ex for 4 years.

One night we were at a house party together and he met this girl. We were asleep on the floor later that night, I woke up and he wasn't there, assumed he'd gone to the loo, when I woke up he was there so didnt think anything more about it.

Until xmas day 2 years ago when i got an email (?) breaking up with me because he'd got this girlpregnant, was keeping it and proposed to her. I replied saying 'But... you said you'd never met her before... and shes only 7 weeks along... that was when we were at that party' and he said 'yeah I know'.

*******

If I wouldnt put up with it if I were you, I certainly wouldn't put up with again.

Hope everything works out for you

xxx

Iwantone!!!

no way sorry once a cheater always a cheater i have a mate who got cheated on in the summer took him bk and now at xmas he has cheater on her again sorry no way and they are mking a go off things as they have a baby girl but it does work they dont love each other sorry no plus my OH was cheated on with his ex and he never took her bk after it it broke his heart we always said if we found some else we would finish each other b4 persuing it

pinkish_angel

I think once you have been cheated on its hard to ever get that trust back. I have replied previously (I have been cheated on). I dont trust my OH as far as I can throw him, n now the worst thing is, I dont trust myself. Mainly because he hurt me so much, I think he will do it again so I would (infact am) considering doing it to him. I want the love n affection that he doesnt show! Its drivin me man. btw Nic I wil email u in a sec xx hope isabelle is doin good babe xx

Jules

I think even if he is putting the effort in, should it be so hard??? Do you not want someone who shows you all that love and affection?

Even if you can get over the cheating and learn to trust him, should you miss out on someone doting on you?

Hope everything works out for you xxxx

RachiePachie

Thankfully me and my DH agree on this. Even if my DH just kissed another woman I'd be gone faster than road runner and vica versa!

Wobbles

How are you MissM?

You do know if this isn't right for you hun that it doesn't mean both parents can't equally love her just as much? You must both be happy together not just with her

x

miss maternal

Well ive made a decision to leave my OH as I have lost the love for him after going back. He is an excellent dad and being nice to me but I feel its too late as the damage has been done and i dont want to be here plus he is taking over with the baby which is pissing me off.

Wobbles

Its good hes helping most complain they don't haha but if hes not allowing you to have an active role too it must be hard

Sorry thing apart from that have not mended I hope you make the choice that is right for you x