miss maternal

Thats what worries me Wobbles but I had a chat to MW today and she reasurred me that the antibioctics are safe during pregnancy and that Isabelle is ok.x

miss maternal

Thanks for all your replies and advice.It means a lot and its nice to know im not alone as it has happened to some of you and im sorry it didnt work out for the best. We have a lot of history together and both have family issues of our own so thats why a family together is important but I think the relationship is flat and I feel because he is enthusiastic about the baby now and has ordered the nursary furniture that I should give it a try. I just dont know if I can get over the hurt and be happy. My head is telling me to go and my heart is telling me to stay and my dad says to think logically and not emotionally.

Wobbles

I think it syour heart you need to follow hun but your herart can changeif not rushed. Its fab hes making such an effort but behind words only you can see the bigger picture its not always easy seeing it from a PC and I think history and time together is important.

Good luck Miss M

_Aaliyah_

if you both cheated on eachother it won't work. there is a line of trust and respect in any relationship and once you cross it theres no going back. i think you should concentrate on you and your LO and see how long he stays interested for if you tell him theres no going back. that will at least prove if he will be a good dad or not. you will meet someone in the future who will love you and your LO for who you are and will give you all the love and commitment you need so you wouldnt dream of cheating and vice versa thats how love should be! good luck with whateva you decide. x x

Steph

First of all im so sorry you're having to go through this...

i myself am in the process of trying to patch up a relationship broken by cheating which a number of the girls here know about.

"fortunately" we have no children involved and both still have our health...albeit slightly demented with each other and we're finally *touch wood* over the worst of it im glad to say.

i know you have made up your mind what to do already,so you don't need us sitting here saying no way no way leave him, because it's none of our business, but what i will say and i speak for us all is that we are always 100% behind you,whatever your decision and we respect it.

You need to for now, focus on your soon to be born daughter and congratulations on her impending arrival. She is your priority, then yourself, then this situation. I personally would try and get him to back off until after the baby is born and tell him you don't need the stress. This also acts as a little test...is he willing to hang about?You can try and relax and enjoy the final weeks of your pregnancy, while he's simmering over what he's done. I guarantee...he'll still come crawling back. They always do when they realise they may have lost women as wonderful and special as us.

Good luck and PM if you need to chat further xxxx

Dippy Yvanne

hey hun, good to see your making a go of it! one thing i have to say though..

not quite sure how to word it :@

but, if you feel if you were to fight with him you would play the "cheating ect card" then in all honesty i wouldnt even bother!

realisticly for things to work it has to be afresh and not all laid on what happened etc...

sorry iif tht dont make sense or seems harsh, i hope u no wot i mean!

Steph

i totally agree...

we said that...if we do this again we draw a line under it...if he gives me no reason to bring it up again, i wont

we'll see...easier said than done but yknow

poppy

Hi Miss Maternal, I'm really sorry to hear about all that's happened to you. You must feel really confused by it all.

I couldn't go back to a guy that had treated me the way your guy has treated you. Even though he says things will be different, there seems to be too much that has happened (on both sides), too much water under the bridge. It might just lead to suspicion and later on things might get dredged up during arguments and stuff. You are right to want him to be part of your baby's life but you could do that and move on at the same time. Be with someone who makes you really happy and fulfilled - a fresh start.

I know it seems easy making a comment when I don't know the situation. Obviously the only one who can make this difficult decision is you. You have to do what's right for you. The best of luck to you and your baby whatever you decide to do.

miss maternal

The problem is I feel so worthless and depressed at the moment and thinking the worst all the time. I woke up crying and hugging my OH saying that if I dont pull through the birth and its a decision to save me or the baby to save her as she will need him and make him feel needed and part of a family. I have always been negative and put others happiness before myself and I really want to meet my lil one and be a good mummy to her but I have such low self esteam. He just told me to stop being silly and that I always look on the negative side of things and need to be more positive as we will be there for eachother. I wanted a hug and he couldnt be bothered. I feel that he doesnt love me or he wouldnt have moved me out when pregnant and spent £800 on a ring for her giving her a proper proposal and me a £300 ring 10 years ago and just saying your sister thinks we should get engaged! He said he only got engaged to her because I text saying he had commitment issues and he wanted to prove me wrong and wouldnt have married her plus dumped her the day after. I dont think he knows how to treat a woman and respect her as he has treated us bothlike shit and made me feel so worthless.

miss maternal

Im glad you managed to sort things out in your relationship Pinkiish Angel and I hope you get through your hurt Steph. i think there is a difference between Love and Lust and deep love is more meaningful but lust is exciting. I think I need sex therapy or am just with the wrong man.