miss maternal

Thats how I feel but I do still love him and he is really looking forward to being a dad now. His dad left him when he was a baby and we have been through lots together and I want him at the birth. he has even ordered the nursary furniture. I have to take these tablets called Erymax as a preventative for the urine tract infection he got. Although he swears he didnt sleep with her until we broke up.

He got engaged to her after I texted her saying he wouldnt commit to her as he had commitment issues and she presurised him to prove me wrong. She wanted to get married to him before Isabelle was born he told me. How can all this happen in just 2 months. I feel so hurt and betrayed. I proved her right as he dumped her the next day and told her he still loved me. The fact that she rang me up the next day and told me he proposed to her on the beach with a 800 pound ring pissed me off as that could have brought a cotbed and nursary furniture. She still has the ring as didnt give it back. I have been engaged since I was 21 to him too but that was after 3 years.

mickey

hmmm, this is a very difficult situation!

who started to cheat?

before my current partner I have been married (now divorced) as my ex was cheating on me.

once it was only a short fling and the other time he was with this women over a period of seven month, including living with her for four month!

in this time I slept with other men too.

nevertheless it wasn't easy for me to seperate from him as we were married and once the relationsship with the women was over he came back to my door!

I took him back, but after two and a half years of trying to make it work I finally broke up with him as it was just impossible to be together after all what happenend.

I could not come over him cheating on me and I fell uncomfortable sleeping with him!

of course there was no child involved in my case, but it might not be the best for the child either, to try to be together only for the child's sake!

there is no standard recipe what to do in your case and I can only tell from my personal experience that for me it did not work out at all!

all the best for you x

alicesuckling

I agree with Hypnorm. If you both found it soo easy to move on and see other people before and him to go as far as get engaged and move in with someone else then I don't think it's going to work. I think its more important for you both to establish your own identities and be ready for the baby coming and then who knows maybe a relationship migth fall in to place but at the moment i think you should be concentrating on getting ready for the arrival of your little one so you know you can cope and be happy in your situation what ever the outcome!

Holldoll

My ex-DH cheated on me. The first time I forgave him and believed that it was a mistake, blah, blah, blah. The second time, I said screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me and I left. There were no children in the picture. I wouldn't stay with him, it sounds like a very unhealthy relationship for everyone involved, mostly your baby.

If you do decide to stay with him, I HIGHLY suggest counseling! You two both have things that need to be dealt with, from the betrayal to the lack of trust, to the immaturity of getting engaged someone to spite you.

Caffers

Hmmm, sounds like a rather destructive relationship to me. You have to ask yourself if you could ever forgive and forget? You may well love eachother but just can't be together. Right now you have to put the well being of you and your baby first. Sometimes we cling on to things hoping that things will change and be different from now on, when deep in our hearts we know they won't be. Sometimes accepting this is the only way to move on and become stronger.

pinkish_angel

When I was 5 months preg I found out that my OH has been cheating on me for 6 months. Not only that, they were engaged and he had even told her that they should try for a baby. We had been together for 3 yrs at the time n lived together. It really shocked me, even though he had cheated before. I felt so hormonal that I took him back. We have moved on from it all and are pretty sorted... Our daughter is now 18 months n we have just took on a pub as a landlord couple but I still 'wonder' if he will cheat again and I often 'wonder' what I would do if in a situation like that as he is now very jealous and protective over me as he is waiting for me to 'get back' at him by cheating with someone else. The thought has crossed my mind and as I say, maybe I would if in that situation cuz afterall, 'he done it to me'. I feel the trust has GONE and will never return. MOVE ON HUNNI.... u will regret it if u get back together! Start a fresh with someone else. Someone you can trust... someone you actually wanna be with. PLEASE do not make the same mistake I did.

Angel

Cheating is a symtom of a bigger issue within a relationship.Sometimes it is better for the child if the parents aren't together,especially if it isn't a stable relationship.I personally wouldn't/couldn't go back,but whatever you both decide I wish you both the best and hope that you can both find happiness.

Wobbles

to you hun x

Miss M I just want to wish you luck in whatever you decide from here x You have been through so much put YOU first not the 'US' You as in you and baby x x

mickey

something else sorry, but a urine tract infection isn't a STD

Wobbles

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