I found out very early on it was twins and this was a worry espcially as I was told it happens so often. I was lucky but I felt for you reading this. I hope your daughter gives you so much joy!!!!

Yeah that sounds really good. My hubby and i were talking about it last night and said we prob would around age 8-10. I cannot imagine my mom telling me that news when I turned 18, I think it is best if she somewhat grows up knowing it instead of just shock. Although I am still torn, what if it happens again and both of them make it.....? I suppose when the moment is right we will just know.

hi this happened to me i found out at 8w 1d i was having twins saw 2 sacs and 2 heartbeats on u/s went back for u/s at 12w 6d and they found 1 baby 1 heartbeat the 2nd sac that was there had shrunk and the baby inside had shrunk and was being absorbed back into my body i had a slight bleed at 7w which is why i went for a early scan im totally gutted that we arnt having twins anymore im still having all the signs of twins my uterus is high up im over tired and more sick than i have been with any of my other pg's i bought a home fetal doppler and hear my baby heartbeat everyday im so worried something will go wrong im 13w 4d now today i heard the heartbeat on one side that was 144 then caught a heartbeat on the other side of my tummy that was 152 it was like within 10 seconds of hearing the 1at 144 heart beat am i just being silly there couldnt have been 3 to start with and one just hiding ?? when i had my 1st u/s that showed twins i asked if there was twins and she said no at 1st then found the twin then was the same woman that scaned me 2nd time she didnt really look about in there found the 2 and stopped i think maybe its all wishful thinking i still havent dealt with the vts i have another scan in 8 weeks so will see what that shows up =]

I've not had any experience of this but I did want to comment.

This is something I read up on quite a bit after finding some information on cleavage of the developing embryo. It surprised scientists that a fertilised egg can split into twins far far more often than they thought possible. They did some experiments to try and document the moment when a cell split and were shocked at how easily it happens, they had theorised that it was rare as multiple births are rare.

So they then looked into it some more and discovered the VTS was actually pretty common.

It's always made me wonder about the ethics of modern early pregnancy scanning. Of course if there is a problem then a scan is needed, I am in no way disputing that, but I was thinking more routine early pregnancy scanning, for no medical reason other than to confirm a pregnancy.

Some of you ladies who never had any bleeding or any signs that you lost a twin, do you feel that it is better to have known about the twin or not?

In another pregnancy would you request an early scan if you didn't medically need one knowing that it may show VTS or would you prefer not to know?

I apologise if I am coming across as unsympathetic or if I have upset any of you.

You know, I am really not sure. I am sad that we lost it, however I feel so blessed to have had it for the 6 weeks that I did and I would not have known about it if I had not had bleeding. As sad as it is, I am glad that we found out there was another one in there and i guess next time around I will prob want an early US to find out again, not 100% sure though.

Thanks for answering. I suppose it's an unfair question, you do know about your baby and to imagine not knowing is just not possible.

Best of luck with your pregnancy, hope it all goes well.

i think i would have pefered not to know then wouldnt have been as bad i wouldnt have just got used to the idea of having twins and then just as i got used to it found out that it was no longer twins if i had another pregnacy after this i wouldnt want an early scan just to find out if it was twins i only had an early scan as i had a slight bleed

My mum had vts with me and just randomly blurted out I was a twin. It was a big shock and I've always felt there was another one of me if that makes sense. I think you should tell the children that they had a twin so its not such a shock when they are older.

I lost one of the triplets ( now twins) before 8 weeks. I will be telling the twins they were triplets from day 1 so its not such a big issue. xxx

I had this too hun, only found out at 13 week scan, by 20 weeks the twin had been absorbed. I went from week 5 to week 18 with bleeding on and off, my body was miscarrying and carrying - to think your body can do such contradictory things at once! My surviving twin is also a girl and I know I will always wonder what her sibling would have looked like. I already have 2 children so twins would have been hard work but I really would have loved to have them both. I agree with you, it is an emotional rollercoaster, you are grieving one while being so grateful for the other. I also get the are you sure there is only one in there comments and honestly it kills me when people say that, if only they knew!

This happened to my mom with my brother 23 years ago, but she didn't know until he was born!