Hello,

I am currently feeling lost, lonely and very scared. About 2 weeks ago I began to get abdominal cramps which felt very much like those I get before my period starts. I was initially v worried as AF wasn't due for a while. Then just over a week ago I got real bad diarrhea (sp?) which contained both mucus and blood. I therefore just assumed that the cramps were some form of tummy bug (though secretly hoping may be pregnancy as we have been trying for a while now). I then experienced a few days constipation while the cramps and lower back pain continued, 90% of which were on my right side.

ON Saturday I was officially late (though my cycles are irregular as have mild endometriosis) so took a HPT which was a feint positive. I didn't get excited as it was v feint and also was so worried about the pains (esp because only really on one side). I took 2 more HPT yesterday and both were positive so made an appt with my GP. The minute he heard about the pains he sent me to A&E. I was there last night where they took a blood test and told me to go along to my EPU today for a scan.

I went to the EPU at lunchtime and they said they may not see anything as I'm only 5weeks. The scan did indeed show nothing, which although in my head I'd expected them to say, really shook me up. They looked at the bloods from last night and my HCG levels were 870 so they want me to go back for more blood tests tomorrow and then they will call me later in the day with the results and when they want me to come back.

The pains are still there and still only on one side so in my heart I'm already convinced its an EP but my husband is trying to stay positive and convinced it'll be in the uterus on a later scan. I'm trying to tell him I know my body but it's my first ever pregnancy and I'm a pessimist at the best of time. I just don't think I want to get my hopes up only to have them dashed.

The worst thing is the fact we've not told anyone so are trying to cope with this togther. I got v upset and was crying on the phone to my mum today but couldn't tell her why but am now wondering if I should. IT's probably quite selfish of me to tell her just so I can talk through this when all it would do is hurt and upset her unnecessarily and my husband isn't telling his parents.

I just wanted to get this off my chest to people who might understand so thank you for listening and keep your fingers crossed this pessimist gets proved wrong!

Oh honey I am so sorry for your worries, I pray that its just early and not visable on U/S yet, with my last baby I had an U/S at 4 weeks and it showed nothing, so maybe the days are off a little, good luck and I hope your numbers go way way up!

Thanks Lizzie. I swing between hope and despair. Obviously I want it all to be OK so badly but all other symptoms suggest it's not.
We'll see! Thank you for your kind words.

Sorry your going through this hun, I know how terrible it feels not knowing whats going on. I do like the hcg number though, its quite high for this early on for an ectopic, I hoping it continues to climb for you, keep us updated so you dont have to muddle through this alone.

i hope all works out for you.
i'm also supsected ectopic. i'm 8 weeks and my last two scans both a week apart showed a sac and nothing else. my hcg is rising but slowly, not doubling.
so i'm going back in again for another scan tomorrow at 12.30 to definate confirm ectopic or not. i only have one fallopian tube so i'm quite concerned about my remaining tube.

it still is very early on, and cramping is normal in pregnancy. if it is very sharp pain go to your A&E. best of luck

Thanks. I'll be thinking of you today when you go for your scan Gumb69.

I called my mum last night and told her. She said she'd guessed (mother's intuition I guess) as she knew we've been trying and it was the only thing that made sense when I was so upset on the phone earlier in the day.

I think in my heart I'm resigned that it's going to be a lower hcg count today or a rise that's not significant enough. Ever since the cramps started after ovulation/conception I've felt something wasn't quite right but last night I couldn't help but mull over all the times the past while I'd allowed myself to enjoy the news. It would have been due around my bday (what a gift), we are moving into a new house in a few months and imagined having to paint a nursery so soon, I even foolishly ordered a pregnancy book online over the weekend... you get the idea.

I'll keep you posted how it goes. Please let me know how it goes with you too gumb69!

Thanks for all your support

i bought a pregnancy book as well, it's good to have though

did you get yourhcg levels back?

they scanned me again today and they want me to go back again on monday
still nothing in th sac. they will check my hcg levels on monday again. if they haven't gone down he will do a laparoscopy and said i will probably lose my tube, which will be horrific as i've already lost one tube and ovary and IVFwill be our only option
let me knowhow you get on

I saw the epu in this pregnancy i was told i would never conceive as i have 2 blocked tubes and if i did it would be ectpic. Before i was scanned i was told my hcg had to be at least 1000 but they prefer 1500 as a pregnancy is not visable in till this point. So this could easily be the reaon for you. My pregnancy wasnt ectopic and my hcg didnt double either.

thanks lilttle blonde
my hcg on monday was 2762. it was 1300 the week before
did you go throughIVF to get pregnant xx

I was expected ectopic also. I had cramps on one side pretty bad in the beginning, and they couldnt see anything on the scan. My first number was 137, but second ended up being 7000. They couldnt see anything till 5.5 weeks on the scan. (1st scan 1 week earlier) It ended up being a cyst that was causing the pain, and everything is normal in my uterus. Don't loose hope and your HCG level sounds normal for so early. Good luck.