pinkish_angel

I know he worked when he was in Lancashire but now they have moved here I really don't know. I assume he must do. I know she went to college to do a baby massage course.. She wanted to lead a course but I have looked about and not seen her name anywhere. He clinic is not the same one as mine however I could always go check out hers. Perhaps look on the notice board.

Cat

It may be that he knows that your the one person who she might listen too and who knows whats going on so he sees you as a threatwho might encourage her to leave him. Iwas in an abusive relationship in the past, and my partner was very manipulative, he wouldnt let anyone get to close to me and used to lie and make up stories to make me believe my friends didnt like me and tell them I had been slagging them off etc to break us all up and make me more dependable on him. Its not your friends fault, even the strongest of people can get broken down by people like this. If your unable to talk to her parents perhaps try texting her again and suggest you meet up on the quiet one day while he is at work and have a chat, it certainly sounds like this relationship isnt very good for her.

hypnorm

Don't give up on her.. a good friend will always be there for someone, no matter how many yrs have gone by.
i'd text and see if she is ok - a controlling relationship may alaso be abusive

pinkish_angel

Thanks everyone. I just worry that I will make it worse if I text and ask to meet up as I am unsure if its 'her' phone. She has used it to ring me but said that she couldnt text from it. Its the same number she had when we first got back in touch 4 or so years ago.. I did get a call from it the once when I text her but as I say, it could have been him warning me off. She loves him, I know that. She doesnt want to risk loosing him. Her words were 'I have too much to loose if I keep in touch with you'. Maybe I should just listen to her and back off. I just miss her loads and its hard to cope with. Its not even like I can slyly walk past her house on the off chance that I could see her cuz she lives in a cresent lol oh my god I sound like a stalker hehe. I suppose I will just have to wait. If we are meant to get back in touch I suppose fate will make it so! *CROSSES FINGERS* AND TOES*

ImTheDaddy

pinkish_angel

I am stuck in the past maybe. I am the one with the problem and its me that needs to move on.. of course her partner and children are gonna come first. It just gets to me the way its all turned out. Why does she have to choose. I feel much better at this present time so I have a better outlook on the situation. Its just some days when I feel really low, I miss her more than others. Memories should stay in the past. I need to start to concerntrate on my future rather than keep looking back! Easier said than done though isnt it at times!! xxxxxxxx

Imi

I would pop a card thru her parents door/ drop it round with a place to meet and a time for a few weeks later and go and see if she comes ....

Hope it works out, just don't give up
xxx

pinkish_angel

I just worry that he will be there when she opens it and then he will go mad at her because 'I' am getting in touch!

Stef

If she still see's these other friends from school then maybe you could arrange with them and have them not say anytrhing... That way her partner may not find out... But it could be emotional and you may not want all your friends there. Or perhaps pop to her parents one dayu and explain the situation perhaps they could talk to her x

pinkish_angel

maybe she doesnt want me to? i dont think she wants to rock the boat with her partner. if she wanted to see me she could have arranged something secretly ages ago. i will prob just wait..... and wait...... and wait...... and prob keep waiting till she is ready to make the move !