Mamafy

I have an upcoming dilemma...I'll start at the beginning...

Not last xmas but the one before I had a mc 13 days before xmas but I still went ahead with xmas celebrations as I had to think of my oh and kids and nephews. We have 3 nephews (husbands side of family, all 3 boys from same family) and I never forget their birthdays or xmas.

So on xmas eve I delivered their pressies plus sweets for their mum/dad and selection boxes for the kids. They handed me my kids pressies, a box of sweets! I was kinda a bit put out that my kids had just got sweets but brushed it off and said to myself that I was still greiving and that maybe they thought I wouldnt have bothered with presents for their children.

So last xmas I had their pressies early and got oh to drop them off. This time I had Katie and sil (dh's brothers wife) was katies godmother. Then she delivered my kids presents I put them under the tree but could tell Katie had the bigger present

After she'd gone I felt all the presents and I was right. All the kids had got a selection box except Katie who'd got a large parcel which turned out to be lots of clothes and shoes etc

So what would you do? I would rather they bought nothing that showed a difference in my kids, it breaks my heart My girls who're old enough to know the difference werent too amused and though it rediculous.

So guys I need your help, in my situation what would you do??

Vickie

Wow that is a tough one. I'd probably try to explain to them that "playing favorites" won't be tolerated, that you appreciate them getting your kids pressies but at the same time can't allow your other kids to be made to feel bad because one gets a lot more than the others. Hope that makes sense Hannah started screaming at me whilst I was typing

dippy dee

I know this sounds strange and probably wrong but if your lo gets clothes again could you not take some out so to make it look like she didn't get that much? And sneak the rerst into her wardrobe? I know it's not the best thing to do, also as vickie says explain that you'd rather all the kids had the same spent on them. The only other thing i can think of is if you buy some little extras and tell your other children they are off this family. Iknow this is not ideal but i'm just thinking of things to help. Other than that only buy their children the same as they do your children e.g a selection box maybe they'll get the hint.
Sorry i couldn't be of any help

polo_princess

Eeeek ... i would definatley try and say something of some form to them, its not fair at all to "play favourites" on the kids, and just as much on you because its so awkward.

Irishmum

The way I would look at it is that if your Sil wants to get Katie something special as her god daughter thats fine! BUT ask her to try not to be sooooo dismissive of the other kids. Just explain that selection boxes verses lots of clothes and such looks badly. That maybe if there was even a little thought put into the others two presents well then it may not have such a negative effect.

vickie83

Hmm I would have to say something. I have twin nephews, I'm God-mother to one of them but wouldn't even dream of differentiating between them.

Mamafy

I'm not known for my tact as it were so if I said something it would probably go along these lines:

"right missy, take your clothes shove them up your arse and dont darken my door again"

so you see why I need all your help

Irishmum

sabby52

I had the same problem last year, I know Dec wa only 7 weeks old but he is still here HELLO!!!! everyone was doing the usual with Dan lots and lots of pressies (he is the first grandchild on both sides) but Dec was getting nothing "NOTHING I SAY" Like I said he was only 7 weeks but he could have got something, a little top or a rattle.
I will not be having it this year if people buy Dan and dont buy Dec I will have a lot to say and will most likely refuse the gifts for Dan !!!!! I know I am a twisted BITCH, But Dan understands he was the one that said last year it wasnt fair, he actually gave Dec half of the money he got for Christmas, Bless his little heart.
This year if one gets then the other will get to if not then bugger off and dont bother.

Vickie

Now that's probably not the way to go