Tilly

People might think that im making this thread because im vain or because I am just fishing for compliments or whatever, I promise im not.. but im concerned about how I view myself. I just took some photos of me and Bethanie and deleted half of them because I hate my face.. I then took a few of myself to see if I would like any of them, but I looked horrendous in all of them and deleted them all.

I've never been amazing looking, but at one stage of my life (about 18-19), I felt "alright".. now I feel horrible. I've lost a fair bit of pregnancy weight which has clung to me for over a year, feel better about myself in general (more positive outlook on life and coping with living with boyfriends family better - my attitude to other peoples selfishness etc has changed to the "just sod it" attitude, or else I would go mad!

Is this just a normal woman thing? or do you think I need a serious confidence boost? do you think being stressed living with others could damage my self esteem?

I am a bit of a worrier/over analyser by nature and never think anyone likes me and must think the worst, so is this the root of all my problems??

Come on wannabe psychologists - if you've got this far, you're patient lmao.

Any comments welcome... ty

leedsforever

hey hun...

I feel the same at the mo!! And all the girls tell me Im really hard on myself!! I think pregnancy really takes your toll on some women and can really change your appearance!!

Is it the weight that your struggling with? Cos weight is what really gets me down!! My face just looks so different!

I think women constantly have self esteem issues...!!

When you go shopping etc do you wear make up and do your hair?? just simple things like that can help

even pre-pregnancy I remember looking back at photos on nights out and be like URGH!!! But then other nights Id be ok with them!!

enigma

Im like that sometimes too, sometimes i just think, sheesh i look like crap, then others ill think i look ok.
Its hard to feel good about your self when you get all these slim beautiful women on TV and you start to think, well most people on telly are like that, are we supposed to be like that too.
And then we have kids and gain weight and that make you feel even worse.
I was once a skinny size 8 and under 8 stone, but before i got pg with this one, i was a size 14 and 11 stone, but id accepted it and was happy to be healthy. Now im worried that im going to gain even more weight, but ill cross that bridge when i get to it.

So in short, no your not the only one that feels low in self esteem at times.

owo

I don't think you are alone. I think all women and one stage or another go through the lack of self confidence stage. I think you need a pamper day. Maybe take a girl friend and go to the spa for the day or get your hair or nails done, just have a really girly day. I do this everynow and then with my sister and it just gives us such a wonderful boost.
Hope you can learn to love yourself again soon.

CHILLbilly

I feel the same......
I am always trying to take pics of myself ( head shots) to find the perfect smile, head tilt ect.
i am usually eyes closed, crossed, or one shut. Smile is usually no lips, all teeth, crooked smile.
I used to be thinner so I guess my face shape and lack of double chin, made a difference.

I hate most of my pics....BUT the ones that turn out ok are usually when I put on some makeup, or have a tan..and hair is styled.

i have read that turning somewhat sideways...NOT full on will make u look slimmer..body and face.


So go have beauty day..either pay for it or have a girlfriend help you....
grab a digital camera and snap away.


Oh i almost forgot........GOOD FOR YOU on looseing your preggo weight.!!!!!!!!!!

GemGems

I HATE having my photo taken! All the ones i've posted on this site i've taken myself because i have to get the right angle. I have a bit of a chubby face and i really cant stand it if my double chin is showing! Once baby is born i'm gonna concentrate on losing alot of weight, going to gym etc.
As the others said, just pamper yourself for the day or something. Give yourself a little confidence boost. xxx

lorrilou

im like this all the time. Somedays i feel and look great and then other times i look in the mirror and feel like a fat disgusting blob!!!

im still carrying 1 1/2st of baby weight and i hate it. worst of all i have a picture of me when nicole was about 1 at an anne summers party with a playboy bunny suit on (basically a bikini) and i think i look really good on it and ever time i look at it i want to cry!!!

Lil_Baby_Boo

I hate my whole look!! I hate people taking photo's of me & come near me with a video camera and you'd be eating the damn thing!! Saying that I do get snap happy if I'm out getting drunken, the normal piS*ed shots.

I think i looked better PG than I do now!

I hate my complexion, I always just look and feel really frumpy!!!

Mynxie

I don't like my photo taken....well actually I do, I love being centre of attention for a moment - I just hate the pictures! lol Maybe have a make over or something? Re-evaluate your styles etc and see how you feel. Sometimes I feel worse when I feel stuck in a rut, you know?

polo_princess

Im a funny one on this ... you could stand me in front of a camera all day long and id be like a pig in s**t but ask me to look back at the pictures and perhaps out of 200 id like 5. I can be very self critical when it comes to looks

So no, i dont think your being mad, i think its just a woman thing in general, we always want to be skinnier/look prettier. Its just the way our brains are programmed lol

Until you think you look good, what everyone else thinks wont really matter if that makes sense?