Mrs Doddy

I feel like I am going to loose the plot soon. Work has got so busy I have been going in early, working through lunch (not always eating) and leaving late. Ok I am talking an hour extra in the morning and an hour in the evening - but to me this is alot. It is a property management job so if I don't sort problems reported people aren't going to have hot water ect ect. Its not a job I can just leave at 5.30 and not think about it until the next day. I am totally knackered and getting headaches.

I have been waking up in the middle of the night thinking about work, what I haven't done, things I have forgotten that pop into my head at 1pm that wakes me up and worrying myself sick. My collegue is no help at the moment and isn't doing what she is suposed to and leaving me with all the complicated work which takes ages, stopping me from doing other things, she going on holiday next week for 2 weeks and I really don't know how I am going to cope. I will be on my own doing our jobs and won't get any help. The phone just rings and rings and I am trying to hold myself back from just breaking down at my desk in tears. I can't normally burst into tears over anything but feel at the moment I could.

Thing is I don't feel like I can say anything to my boss because it is my job and if my boss thinks I can't do it then thats never a good thing. I just feel that I can't cope at the moment and really want to stay at home however I know that this is a bad idea as it isn't going to solve anything and the work would be stacking up when I got back so wont do this.

And to top it all waiting to ttc is killing me H will not bring the date forward from Feb - which I have to respect but I want a baby soooooo much

HELP !!!

Thank you

sam's mum

Sorry work's such a nightmare for you at the moment, especially with your colleague going away. Surely your boss must realise what a great job you do though, and how busy things are? Is there any chance of getting a temp to help out over the summer, even if it's just with answering the phone etc? You shouldn't have to work extra hours, miss lunch and be so stressed about work when you get home....and none of that means that you aren't doing a great job - there's only so much one person can do. Can you tell your boss that you're having to work through lunch because there is so much to do right now? Or maybe mention that your colleague really isn't doing as much as she should be?

Hope things improve for you soon x

Reedy

So sorry your feeling so down with work at the moment I know How you feel because I felt the same in my last job. Asking for help doesnt mean your bad at your job & if your boss doesnt see this then something is wrong with him. I agree with Sam's mum about asking to get a temp in just to man the phones x Its so hard when work takes over your life, Like I say I was in the same siuation as you but I felt the only way to solve my problem was to leave I wasnt happy (even tho i loved my job & was very good at it) it wasnt any good for my health I'm now in a job I love (receptionist) & its so easy going & I leave at 5.30pm & dont think about it until the next day x I think you need to sit down with your boss & go through a few things.

As for WTT know where your coming from there too altho Hubby hasnt even given us a date just a 'Ill know when i'm ready' Its the hardest thing i have ever had to do & its killing me but I know my time will come I just have to wait patiently no matter how hard it is x

Love & hugs to you hun Hope your feeling better soon x

Mrs Doddy

Thanks girls

Getting a temp in isn't really an option as the work is so specialised - getting someone but can get the others in the office to help.

I love the job normally and don't feel that I want to leave so will try to speak to my boss. She is lovely - will see what she says

sam's mum

Hope you manage to work something out x

CareBear

I think you really need to speak to you boss about this especially if your colleague isn't pulling her weight. You sound quite stressed out to me and with good reason and this could cause you issues when you start TTC. I have just left a job that made me feel like this and at the beginning of the year I did regularly cry my eyes out in the office. I have been TTC for a year now and I do feel very strongly that the stress of my job is one of the main reasons that I am still not pregnant. I left my job ad got a new one as I wasn't enjoying what I was doing anymore either, as you still enjoy what you do you definatly need to speak to you boss and try and get the workload split better. Sorry for the essay hopes this helps x

Mrs Doddy

Well im awake and forgot to do something yesterday so I have got up and will go in to sort it out - this is really killing me - thing is I need to have everything in place before my collegue goes away. I will speak to my manager today thanks xx

Mrs Doddy

I sent my manager an e-mail to explain how I felt and she was off until today. I came off the phone to a ranting client and saw that my eyes were welling up and called me into her office and she sent me home she is going to help me while my collegue is away (who was very put out that I went home) so have the weekend to try and get myself out of feeling crap and crying every 5 mins - going to have some lunch the get a book and a large glass of wine.