Firebabe

She totally betrayed me

Ok her on and off boyf has abused her severely,
call her a goof one week ,next week says she's his angel etc,
he has shot guns at people , selling crack for 13 yrs on and off and many peeps wanna kill him etc
u get the picture Hes in jail now
he will be out in 20 days
shes pregnant due Dec 13 so I been not only supporting her food and shelter out of my heart I also found her a place right beside me I managed to talk my landlord into renting it out to her
I even managed to help her get the first month rent paid
I told her I'd Support her before and after the baby emotionally etc
prior to getting her the place she agreed that she wouldn't let him over much (its his baby )
Agreed he can only come over w/ his parents
and not move in and take over which he will try to do
she agreed it was time to forget him and focus on her and the baby NOW that shes moved in ( since Aug 1) she turned the tables on me and said u cant tell me he cant move in etc and she can do whatever she wants etc and started to yell at me and get very mean!! (WTF is it with people treating nice people like shit??
anyhow My landlord and I wanted to make this place crack dealing free drama free nice and quiet etc

She wants him back .. if he moves in it will get really bad .. he keeps guns on hand , will deal crack once hes out (20 days) beat her , etc

OMG what should I do..
Its so weird how someone can act soo nice and sweet and wonderful and turn in to a completely different person the next
I know a few already in life and online


You should have seen
mean look on her face
I have done so much for her spend hundreds of dollars on her ( just cuz I love her) sheltered her, bought her stuff from Victoria secret.. talked to her in support terms ... I been basically throwing all my attention on her
its her first child
shes 22 ugh

xarlenex

I dont really really have much advice,accept from it sounds like you've done more than wat should have already, and she needs to learn for herself now. Hope things get better x

KatienSam

how ungrateful!!!! i have an aunt who has done this to my mum (and then me!) she now has 11 kids and lives in a dump and she still hasnt learnt!! unfortnately some people will take take take and never realise the error of their ways, i dont think there is much more you can do hun.

she made her bed, let her lie in it.

xxx

enigma

I agree, have a word with your landlord, tell him what she has said then it doesent reflect badly on you.
You can only give so much, now just leave her to her own devices, you have given her the easy option, she has thrown it back in your face so let her learn the hard way.

rae05

You need to get the landlord to tell her if she has someone unauthorized move in then she gets evicted. She can't hear it from you, she needs to hear it from him/her.

Elli21

Thats what i was going to say..if she signed a tenancy agreement then it should have had only her name on it. So if he moves in she is making the agreement void.

I cant believe how some people do this to their family and when they have helped them so much. I hope she starts to see clearly soon.

Could it be that she is scared of him that she wants to stick up for him etc, he does sound like a scarey person.

CareBear

I agree this is what I was going to say not to be horrid as she is your friend but I really don't think you want them living next door if she is going to allow him to move back in with her

Mamafy

yep I agree with Rae too, I would block him from moving in if you can. No-one wants him as a neighbour

maddiwatts19

hun, i really dont know what to say, but i just wanted to give you a xxxx

katy

I agree with the other ladies so far as the fact he probably can't move in if she's signed a tenancy agreement for her. But i really do feel for you, i don't understand how people can turn like that. Especially against a relative and after all you've done for her. I also don't know why she would want somebody like that around her or her baby. I understand every father has a right to see his child...but if he's involved with guns and drugs?! terrifying.