thanks for all your advice, tried herbal stuff before had a spray from boots that you squirt on the pillow worked for a bit so i might give that ago again.
nytol etc are a no go as i'v been addicted to them(

) and they don't work on me.
might have to bite the bullet and do therapy again, i hate having to talk about myself to a stranger(or people i know for that matter)makes me scream inside!