Aidan's Mummy

well i have always said that i want more than one child. although lil Aidan wasnt planned i am so excited about becoming a mummy. well me and Oh were talking about when we would try for another and i said well i want to get college out of the way and get myself establsihed in my nursery nursing carrier. so my college take 2 years and to get well set up in my carrier and finacially stable will probs take another 2 years. so i was thinking by the time Aidan was 4 or 5 i would try again. but that would make me 19-20 years old. is that a bda thing. so many people have said having another at that age would be stupid. but i dont see the problem if i've got a steady income and have gotten my self set up. what do you guys think??
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ANGYPANGY

well we had our first when my DH was 17(i am 3 yrs older) then our second one when he was 20 and now we are having our third when he is 23 so i think it would be fine. I realy think there isn't the perfect time to have a baby there is always something

Tasha

I dont think it is a bad idea at all. You have properly thought it all through, know where you wanna be in 4 years time. I had my first at 18, 2nd 19, 3rd at 22, 4th at 23. I personally think that if you took your age out of the equation no one would say a word, so what the hell gives the right to just because your a young mum?

Sorry little rant there

Aidan's Mummy

thanks for the support hun i mean its not like im not trying to get a carrer and pay my way. the tax payers wont be paying for me and the baby so i dont see what the problem is. and i mean look at you your a young mum and your doing a great job so i say GO YOUNG MUMs he he
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Ema

You've thought it through and as long as your financally stable then why not??

I mean theres never an easy time to have one baby let alone two. But that means it hard weather your 19 or 35!! Dont let what others say put you off. Hell i get told im 2 young yet im 21 work a high paid(yet stressful) job. Me and OH have bought our own home and have everything we need. Yet i get critisied!! you cant win in this world really everyone has a bloody opinion.

If you and OH have thought it through then why not XxxX

Lyrah

Hey sweetie

I think it's perfectly fine. Age is just a number, it doesn't say how good of a parent anyone is going to be. I really can't stand age discrimination when it comes down to young mums... there is nothing wrong with it at all and if this is what you and your OH want, then you go for it! Don't let anyone else tell you any different or put you down about it. This is YOUR life and YOUR choices. I'd also like to start having my children young But no, there's nothing bad with it at all.



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rae05

Okay here's my theory on it but don't pay a lot of heed to it because I'm not planning any more kids anytime soon.

Being 20 years old now, and being pregnant with ONE...I find it difficult. I can't go out with my friends, I can't do everything that my 20 year old friends are doing. They can go off to work and school no problem, but after Christmas in order for me to do anything I'm going to have to get a babysitter. My money won't be my own, and everything I do will be centered around the baby. Thats with ONE baby.

At the point that I am at in my life right now, I honestly can't imagine having TWO kids right now. It would blow my mind. I would be dysfunctional.

Saying that though, if you feel that you are ready and that you have given it a lot of thought, then go for it. Just know that when you're 20 the lifestyle that you may want to live could be a lot different than the one that you think you're going to want to live. I think when the time comes, if you still feel the same way and you're financially ready, then do it.

nikky0907

I agree with the girls.
If you have a nice steady income,you are comfortable with your job and position in life,why not?
Other people will always criticize.If you wait till 35 they will call you advanced maternal age,or they will constantly tell you 'Why not another one?','When will youhave another one?'.
These are your life choices,nobody has a right to say.

Tilly

All you can do is what YOU believe is right, it's just a matter of opinion. Accept the fact that you may change your mind though and try not to worry about it. It's great that you have thought it all out!

I had Bethanie at 20 and we are hoping to get pregnant again soon, I originally said 5 years until the next!

leedsforever

I defiently think its fine.... when i fell pregnant my mum kept saying "I just dont think its the right time" In my eyes there is never a completely right time!!

Im like you though before my second I need to finish my education and start a career!!