Aidan's Mummy

right a few years ago in 2004 i think. my step bro was sent down for murder. he was called gareth. he got life had to serve a minimum or 11 years i think. but he could get out early if his lawyer of a dad has anything to do with it. Well i never new the extent or what he actuallly did cos i was 3, 14 at the time an d i never read the papers about him cos i wasnt allowed. but now i have just read the article and i am actually sickned of the thought that i grew up with this monster. its really upset me. and he wants to come back as part of the family when he gets out but i frankly dont want him anwhere near me. what do i do girls how do i tell him i want nothing to do with him when he comes out

heres a link to the article please dont read if violnece really upsets you. it made me cry
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/b...ts/4486541.stm
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polo_princess

Only you can answer that one im afraid ..... some people would be ok with it, as family are family, some would completely disown them. It really is down to your personal thought on this situation ...

Munchkin

I think it is going to be tough - especially if the rest of the family want him home.
On the other hand I'm sure you have concerns about your little one being around him. You need to seriously consider your options in terms of moving out. Is that even an option? Do you think that you will be the one to be not accepted in the family for not wanting to be around him?

Aidan's Mummy

he wont be living with me hun as his dad dosent live with us. my mum dosent wanan know either but im just scred it will pis him off and he might do something stupid to us or someone else that happens to be in his path. i mean what he did was sick and im not sure something like most of his family disowning him could make him kill agin or something. bt there is no way im letting him near my lil one over my dead body. thanks for replying huun
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Munchkin

Well, if you've got your mum on your side then that's a relief...phew! At least it means you won't be alienated. You just have to do what is right for you sweetheart. I can understand the fear, but you can't live in fear especially when you are pregnant - believe me I can tell you from experience that the stress is no good for you or baby. Just stay away. Hopefully he won't be silly enough to do something like that again.

moomin_troll

If you dont want him in your life then dont have him in it you dont even have to give someone like him a reason. In your situation i would be the same i wouldnt want him anywhere near me or my child id tell someone to let him no what i thought of him n to me hes dead! But thats just me

Pebbles

You have to do what you feel is right, accepting him back into your family doesnt mean you condone this horrid crime. You know deep in your heart and head what the right decision for you your nearest and dearest))

xarlenex

If he does his time he might truely realise what he done was wrong and actually be genuinely sorry. I believe Jail sometime does turn people around for the better. Its just a case of wait and see though xx

sammie18

Oh im so sorry you have to go through with this!

Uvlollypop

i actually remember this happening and where it happened is 2 mins away from where i am now. it was a revolting attack not only did they kill him they took photos on their mobiles and showed his girlfriend!
im sorry if this upsets you but i hope he never comes out i had friends who were close with paul and they deserve to be in prison for their full sentence if not longer