AmysBumpNo3

once again,my daughters father gaz, does not want izzy over the weekend.

this time, he says his gf's car has broke down...for the 7th time this year, and on a friday again!!!
so i say " youl just have to catch the bus down then and pick her up!"
he only lives a 20min bus route away but even then, he didnt reply!

so this morning, as hes blocked me on facebook,i go on hubbys account and check out gaz's profile. oh...it seems that its paulas engagment party on sat.

now we really know why he doesnt want izzy this wknd!

why lie?

so, ive just txt him AGAIN "so i take it you dont want izzy again this wknd. strange that,your gfs car breaking down so many times! its becoming a habbit!!"

hubbys told me not to mention that i know about the party...but im just itching to rolok him!!!!

what would you do in this situation??


ohhhh hubbys just brought me some strawberrys and cream for breakky to chear me up! bless him!!

mizzi

I'd tell him I know, just goes to show where his priorities lay..

why block you though surely he must have known you'd find out!

AmysBumpNo3

cos hes a c**k jockey!

the thing is, he and his gf have a baby due in a month. he apperently is really busy so thats why he cant see izzy so much and hes skint buying things for the baby so he cant help towards izzys education.

so what happens when there baby comes and he has to pay attention and maintanance to it?

looks like izzy will be totally pushed aside!

sonny

That is bang out of order but i think you have to keep your cool and rise above it,dont mention to your daughter the reason and when she is a teenager she'll work it all out on her own if letting her down is a regular occurance.

Its his loss

AmysBumpNo3

well im hoping when shes older that she wont blame me. ive always given her father the chance to see her when ever he wants unless we have plans already.

i could just see in years to come, him putting all the blame on me and showering her in gifts to make her believe him.

i so wish i could just tell him to piss off for good! my daughters not really that bothered about seeing him.she loves being at home. afterall, all he does with her WHEN he actually has her is make her sit on a potty, infront of the telly, feeding her crap! she comes back in a real bad mood, tired and drained.

last time he had her, she came back home upset and asked us if she was allowed to play with her toys! WTF!!!! THERE HER TOYS!!! when i asked him about this, he said she had been fine all wknd. obviousley not! what kind of a child asks if she can play with her own toys? one that been told off about playing! then the food, i ask what hes fed her over the wknd " ah, cheese spread, mc donalds etc"
how the hell is that healthy??? no wonder whys shes in such a bad way when she gets back! shes has fruit and veg everyday at home!! shes not used to crap for 72hrs!!

gaz - "well my gf has had experience with kids for 10yrs so if i was doin owt wrong, she'd tell me."
so, your gf has no kids of her own yet & works as a nursery nurse in a well known nursery thats care is not upto standard. she has not pointed out that kids need real food? and that kids should be allowed to play with toys?
izzy was probably interupting his footy match so wasnt allowed to play!

then comes the shocker..
gaz - "well your a bad mum for depriving izzy of mc donalds. cant you afford it or summat"
WHAT!!!!!
no1) my husband pays for everything...including izzys education which you wont help with!!! yea were a little short atm no thanks to you and would rather not blow our money on crappy food that izzy doesnt even like!
no2) we prefer proper food!! whats wrong with cooking a meal then buying them a kids magazine for a treat???
no3) HOW CAN YOU CALL ME A BAD MUM WHEN IVE BROUGHT UP YOUR DAUGHTER FOR THE PAST 3YRS WITHOUT YOU?!!!



gaz prioitys:
1)himself
2)spending all his money on himself
3)himself
4)football
5)going out
6)himself
7)his mum
his gf
9)himself
10)izzy


oh im worn out with anger already and its only 10:30am! just gonna stop thinking about it for abit. its his loss,i love my daughter and love every minute i spend with her. gaz can go kill himself foe all i care.

sorry for the massive rant ladies. thanks for listening xx

leedsforever

my mum had all this with my dad hun!!!

And believe me, my mum was behaving much more bitter than you.... she still is!!

To start with it drove me to my dads.... but now Im 22 I know he comes first!!! Dont get me wrong I know he loves us but I think so much more of my mum and step dad!!!
He had 2 more children after me and my sis... who we are very close too!!! But they know too what he is like!!!

I think you should tell him you know... catch him out the lying lil rat!!!! But try not to get wound up or blame yourself for your daughter and her dad not having a relationship!!! It is 100% all him.... and your daughter will learn this!!! BELIEVE ME!!!

PS: Mcdonalds??? Is he all there??? Ill make note of that.... "To be a good mother... you must feed your child with crap on a regular basis"!!!

Uvlollypop

id go kung fu on his ass, i dont know what to say what an a hole!! what is the point in acting like that, i think if it were me id say you can see her when you can make an effort...

Elli21

I know what it is like to be Izzy. And i know that its hard even though she may not show it...
I think thats its fantastic that even though he ahs let her down so much that you dont let that get in the way of you offering him to have her next time.
The only thing that really muddled me was that my mum used to slag my dad off to me when i got older and that made me really upset. I know that you probably dont do this as she is only 4 years old. But even so, when you keep making excuses for him not coming she'll know by herself in time they were just excuses on his part.
I dont think you'll be blamed at all! Your little girl will see that you've made ALL the effort and he has made ZERO when shes older.
I kow it must be really hard for you to see your daughter let down, but if she is anything like me, she'll be a stronger person for it later on in life!
Ive got tears in my eyes lol...memories are not nice things ...

for you and her xxxx

AmysBumpNo3

thanks for the support ladies.

im gonna take a trip down to me mum n dads house. take my mind off things.
im expecting a delivery to arrive at there house today. my son got a quad off his uncle for his bday the other wk which izzys not allowed on cos its petrol run (she was really upset about it) so i ordered her a princess scooter. fingers crossed it turns up. she can forget about her dad for the wknd and enjoy her new toy.

catch ya laters! xx

rafwife

I would turn up at the party.

But then I'm evil like that.