sweetsammi

Does your OH look? How do you feel about it? x

Suz

My Hubby Looks sometimes... Doesnt bother me.... He is not sneaky about it. I even buy him nude (but tastefull) Calandars for his garage every year... Keeps him feeling like a man I guess. But if he was obsessed about watching it and being sneaky, then I think I would have issues...

bexy_22

My oh doesn't do it from what I know of. And if he does I don't think it would would bother me so much. As long as he isn't like, phoning or texting sex lines and stuff lol

sweetsammi

I only ask because i never thought my OH bothered with it. He always said he had no interest in that sort of thing as he had me and that was enough and that the women look fake anyhow (which i didnt really believe, but anyhow lol). Anyway so i was putting all our photo disks onto our hard-drive (alot arent labelled) and i found one of them had pix of naked women masterbating and stuff. Although i was suprised i wasnt really botherd although annoyed that he lied saying he had no interest! But i thought they where probably from before we were together.

I thought wrong. This is what got me angry. He'd been lookin at these during the time i was pregnant-mainly when i was in hospital with preeclampsia and a kidney infection! I thought it was awful that i was in hospital poorley, carrying his child and all he could think about was ahem playing with himself whilst looking at these disgusting women! Sorry tmi! I just would have thout it would be the last thing on his mind thats all. And now i cant get that imge out my mind! He said it was a one off-just while i was pregs because we never had sex and he was desperate! I suppose i should be greatfull he didnt sleep with someone else. He says most men do it and i shouldnt be offended because other women arent.. so i just wanted your thoughts on the matter! I wouldnt mind so much. Just the fact he did it whilst i was ill and it wsnt like he just looked at a website- he took the time to save it all on disk and keep it! Thats what upsets me. He says i dont give him enough sex. He's right but thats because i feel unnatractive and self conscious after having Oliver which i think is understandable. And now ive seen them pix i feel damn ugly and not good enough. There was a time when i was enough for him and he never even looked at another woman- now he's fantasising about them! I feel really inadequate and generally s***. Any men out there that wanna reply would be bril! x

Ann-Marie

I think they view it in a completely different way to women... I can't really explain it.... but sort of... we can build it up to almost feeling like it was a relationship with a person... whereas they are just looking at tits and arse... sort of... does that make sense..

I'm quite tempted to buy mine some to keep him off my back.. so to speak.. I can't even bend down to get something out of the cooker without him coming up behind me and making some comment

bexy_22

I caught my OH a few weeks ago when he had just 'relieved' himself as I came home from work early which he obv wasn't expecting! For some reason I was more annoyed at the fact that he hadnt been looking at porn cause that made me think, well what was he thinking about if he didnt have a prompt like that? Have you spoken to him about it and how it makes you feel?

sweetsammi

Hmm thts just it, he moans i dont give him enough sex, but he doesnt really make much attempt to try make want sex lol. Maybe if he put more effort in making me feel sexy i may feel differently! He hasnt come home yet. He left about 3hours ago when we had this discussion in a strop. wooops. x

bexy_22

Lol I know what you mean, it's hard to feel attractive and I don't think men understand that it takes much longer to feel sexy. I can't bring myself to initiate anything sexual and he doesn't try because he thinks I should do it for a change as its usually him. Maybe try and subtly hint about the porn in relation to your sex life. Might spark something

oOKayOo

i went through the exact same thing through my first pregnany and second. He knows how i feel about porn , i think its degrading to me to scroll through endless amounts of naked women. Expeacailly that i was pregnnat and he KNEW i felt like crap.

I know alot of people with disagree with me but i wont tolerate it in this house. Mags ok like mens mags not hardcore porn. But to get on the net and spend hours looking at it even to download it. Nope i wont stand for it. My OH done this twice , and i dont think he will do it again as he will know what coming as i walked out and didnt speak to him for 2 weeks. Harsh i know but i cannot stand it. I said this when i first started with him ,

Im not so sure why im like this , my mother is too.

BeckyBoo

I don't think my partner looks except page 3.

I would be slightly annoyed but I don't know why.