maddiwatts19

I feel so bad because my other halfs sister is having some problems, and no-one seems to want to help her!!!

My OH is one of 11! And as i'm an only child, its come as a bit of a shock! but i've really fitted in with the family, and i get on with everyone. i think thats why it feels so horrible that no-one is helping.

About 14 years ago, my OHs sister started an affair with a married man! She now has 4 children from this affair, three boys and a girl who range from 12 to 4. I know and she knows that the affair was wrong, but at the time she didnt know he was married and when she found out, he kept fobbing her off with the whole "i'm leaving her soon, just a little longer for the kids" speech...why she didnt end it i dont know, i guess when you love someone, you do what it takes to be with them...
The affair has now well and truely ended, and she has been left heart-broken and holding 4 kids!
The oldest of her kids is Ortistic (?...i cant spell!) and he bullies his 10 year old brother so badly. If the 10 year old doesnt do what his brother says, he threatens to 'beat the shit out of him', or 'kill him in his sleep'...The poor boy is living in constant fear....my OHs sister has contacted the 'officals' to try and get some help, but as soon as they turn up to asses the situation, he's on his best behaviour, so nothing is being done about it!!!
Also, the son being bullied hates going to school as he is also being bullied there because he has really bad exzema. so he now has my OHs younger sister who is 17 who goes with him and helps him learn. The older brother refuses to go to school because of his ortism, and as a result my OHs sister is now being threatened to go to jail for him not going to school...She tries her hardest, but is a single mum with 4 kids and a full time job. If they put her in prision that isnt exactly fair on the kids, and how is it going to make him go to school??? it wont!!

Its just so frustrating to see her going through this and that the proper officials wont help her son becuase whenever they see him, he is on his best behaviour!! Obviously my OHs family help out so much, and look after the youngest two and get them from school untill she comes home from work and try to help the ten year old by having him at their house to get him away from his brother, but he gets jealous and comes down anyway.
It is also fucking annoying that their father does shit all!!! he will acknowledge my OHs sister in the street, but ignores the kids, pays nothing for them, helps them out in no way, and doesnt even acknowledge that the oldest boy exists. Because "theres something wrong with him"...what a vile thing to say about anyone, let alone your own son!! He has his 'perfect' kids with his 'perfect' wife (who has stayed with him because she refuses to think he would sleep with someone so "beneath them"!!!)

I know there is nothing i can do, i just hate seeing her 10 year old in constant fear, and her struggeling to cope! Life really is fucking unfair...i just hope someone would help!!!

sorry for my rant girls, its just been really getting me down seeing whats happeneing...i needed to share and i know you girls (and guys!) are fantastic

thanks for reading...

xxxxxxx