What kinds of things did you do for him if you don't mind saying? you can leave out the naughty stuff mwhaha.

I will have been with my boyfriend for 3 years in December, but I have known him for longer than that. Not been together as long as some of you other girls, but we enjoy being with each other, help each other out rather than expect each other to do everything and we can't stay angry with each other for long. Our relationship has gone so quickly because we are very happy together and have the balance right I think. Hope I can come give more advice in years to come..

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Originally Posted by leeanne View Post
I used to read a relationship forum and there were so many women who were complaining that their OH wasn't romantic enough. I felt the same way, yet didn't verbalize it, until I thought, why not take matters into my own hands. I planned a truly romantic night and he was so appreciative of it. I wouldn't expect it back but just the happiness on his face was so worth it. Heck, I had so much fun planning it that it was far better than receiving it.
What kinds of things did you do for him if you don't mind saying? you can leave out the naughty stuff mwhaha.

I will have been with my boyfriend for 3 years in December, but I have known him for longer than that. Not been together as long as some of you other girls, but we enjoy being with each other, help each other out rather than expect each other to do everything and we can't stay angry with each other for long. Our relationship has gone so quickly because we are very happy together and have the balance right I think. Hope I can come give more advice in years to come..
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Well, this made me think- you know we (women) appreciate romantic gestures a lot more (usually). My DH is not particularly romantic, and at the start of our relationship I did feel a bit neglected in this field, but then began to change my line of thought- as I said above, it's good if you can detach yourself for a moment! I tried to put myself in my DH's shoes and think the way he thinks. I concluded that there were loads of things that he did that he might consider to be "romantic", and that my reaction to them had always been negative, because they didn't fit into my ideal. (Eg, buying me a plastic rose for valentines day!!!!! (aged 20)) I decided to change my mindset to his: and I came to this conclusion - Blokey doesn't give a lot of importance to days of the year when he is *expected* to be romantic ie 14th Feb. Blokey feels that Woman will feel neglected if no gift is received. Blokey would die of embarrassment giving real roses etc as he is a) an anarchist and b) the woman at the petrol station would gossip. Compromise= give plastic >> shows individuality, financial skills and privacy protection. I could have dumped him for giving me that plastic rose if I'd been shallow, but instead we are still together 15 years later, and I still have it

Well, first I booked the honeymoon room in a nice hotel and totally kept it a surprise. Then I arranged a limo. I left here early saying that I was going to do a few things. Well, I went to the hotel room and set it up (including a cassette player with a love note I recorded on it), got dressed and left. When I left, he was being picked up by the limo, which he knew nothing about. They arrived at the hotel and the limo driver gave him a note saying to go up to the reception desk. The receptionist then gave him a key to the room.

He arrived at the hotel room, his suit was on the bed and in that cassette message I told him to get ready and meet me in the lounge of the hotel at 5:30 p.m. During this time I was having my hair done.

When I arrived back at the hotel, we had a few drinks, a lovely dinner and the rest is history.

I agree.. getting away for awhile, and having some time to yourself. We have been together over 3 years and when we are constantly around each other we end up getting on each others nerves. lol

choose your battles and TRUST each other! take time apart somedays so that you can reconnect...

Oh wow leeanne, that is the most romantic thing I have ever heard

Trust, honesty and respect. If you dont have those then you dont have a relationship in my opinion! I've known Terry for 14 years. We 1st went out when we were 12 (ahhh bless) and then we both went off and had other relationships. We met up again in 2006, we were both in relationships but weren't happy. We eventually got together, not without its troubles, and we're still happy now. Terry is like my best friend. I know for certain that if things didn't work out between us, we'd still be the greatest of friends. He is very much a mans man and treats women with respect. The only thing that worries me is, he's so into taking on his responisibilities that he'd still stay with me for the sake of our child even if he didn't love me anymore. But i suppose thats one of those things you have to deal with as and when it comes.