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KX · Dec 14th, 2006, 22:54 PM

Mines is a blue safety 1st bath seat

twinkletoes · Dec 14th, 2006, 23:12 PM

ive got a white 1, its got green suckers on the bottom

Tam · Dec 15th, 2006, 00:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Dionne

i DONT think its digusting atall.

i would not be offended if SS checked my children. ild be happy as they are doing there job
its good the HV didnt just trust you on face value and she has followed it through
they have been round mine twice before. once because Tyler my lil brother when he was 3 jumped in the bath when it was a few inches deep of boiling hot water and he burnt himself badly.
and the other time Diors childminder contacted them as Diors top of her legs were bruised. it was from when she was in one of them plastic bath seats that help them sit up.
they are doing there job. and im glad that they take these things seriously. of course you are not harming your child. bit some mothers do.

I was just saying to Paul that I think it is right that things get followed up, but what I find disgusting, is that instead of explaining things to you and putting your mind at rest, you are told they are in a strange place, therefore we have to get SS involved........that makes you feel crap as a parent and it is not necessarily the case. Just because bruises are in a different place does not mean cause for alarm!!! Anything can happen to the best of parents resulting in a bruise, but I do think they have to take the kiddies behaviour into account too, and if there is cause for concern, then fine, pick up the phone and make that call, but otherwise, there just seems to be a lot of over reaction in a few cases, again, I am not against it, but there are ways and means of doing it without pointing the finger or being made to feel that the finger has been pointed at you!!

I took Jade to the Doc's when she was just 16 months old because of something she was doing.......he went and consulted with another Doctor, then came back and said how baffled he was, as what I had said was a sure sign of a child beng abused, it was their way of dealing with it

BUT he could see how happy and content she was playing in his office and how she reacted with me and my Mum which told him she was no way being abused, but he said he would get the HV to come around just to see if she could shed some light on things........

I took no offence to this, as I wanted to get to the bottom of it and not for one minute did he make me feel I was possibly the cause of it......it turns out, she was just missing my Mum, as she used to live with us and had moved out and it was her way of showing her hurt!

twinkletoes · Dec 15th, 2006, 00:29 AM

thanks for the advice girls. i will try not to worry now, after all ive done nothing wrong

Dionne · Dec 15th, 2006, 13:29 PM

if a child has been getting abused for years the first thing people say is "why was this not noticed sooner"
i think the hv should over react as soon as they see any kind of harm marks or any thing on a child. better to be safe then sorry
i think maybe because twinkletoes had no idea how the marks got there and them being in a odd place would have raised concern too.
you can never be to carefull nower days.

Kina · Dec 15th, 2006, 16:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Dionne

if a child has been getting abused for years the first thing people say is "why was this not noticed sooner"
i think the hv should over react as soon as they see any kind of harm marks or any thing on a child. better to be safe then sorry
i think maybe because twinkletoes had no idea how the marks got there and them being in a odd place would have raised concern too.
you can never be to carefull nower days.

I agree - I would be more worried about finding out where the bruises did come from tbh (which it seems like you have). The HV doesn't know who you leave your children with, therefore they might not have been assuming that you did it but that they came to harm whilst the child was not in your care. I would prefer that HVs looked out for suspicious markings, at least your HV is doing their job. Look at all the horrific cases in the past like Victoria Climbie etc.

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