Keeping Gender Secret

x-amy-x · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:34 PM

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2...oddler-secret/

What do you think??

Obviously the child will be come aware of its gender as it gets older. Not sure where this would leave the child emotionally though

CareBear · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:37 PM

I'm not sure as they are not promoting the child's identity which I think is important when growing up and helps confidence. I think its important a child knows its gender but be brought up believing they can dress how they want and be what they want.

wishingonastar · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:38 PM

i can understand the reasoning behind it, but i do think it's cruel really and with strong potential like you say to affect child emotionally

Stef · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:40 PM

I dont agree with what theyre doing. Surely that child in time is going to have some phycological problems.

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Laura2919 · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:42 PM

I dont really understand the whole thing if I am honest. Its a bit mad! lol

x-amy-x · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:43 PM

Its a bit of an odd thing to do. And surely only alienates the child? I hope the kids in school aren't too mean anyway! No doubt the kid will end up running around naked or something to prove a point!

jenny_wren · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:48 PM

that's really odd

surely when he/she starts school they're going
to be bullied no end how is that child supposed to
fit in and make friends ...

tbh i think its a daft idea!

Panda_Ally · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:56 PM

I dont know what they are trying to achieve, just singling POP out and making them confused!!

Logan's Mum · Mar 15th, 2010, 17:04 PM

Bizarre.... yes, you shouldnt really gender stereotype your child too much (you know, blue for boys etc) but not telling anyone their sex?!? hmmmmm when the kid starts school they will probably show what sex they are (getting dressed for gym etc) so will be told by their classmates. What happens then, will they go home and ask their parents if they are the sex their classmates say, and what will the parents say??? I really dont know

nicholatmn · Mar 15th, 2010, 17:10 PM

I don't understand the point of doing that?

Mar 15th, 2010, 16:34 PM	#1
x-amy-x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Teesside, UK Posts: 13,812	Keeping Gender Secret http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2...oddler-secret/ What do you think?? Obviously the child will be come aware of its gender as it gets older. Not sure where this would leave the child emotionally though

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CareBear Other BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 2,809	I'm not sure as they are not promoting the child's identity which I think is important when growing up and helps confidence. I think its important a child knows its gender but be brought up believing they can dress how they want and be what they want.

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wishingonastar Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: England Posts: 7,806	i can understand the reasoning behind it, but i do think it's cruel really and with strong potential like you say to affect child emotionally

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Stef Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: North East Posts: 6,728	I dont agree with what theyre doing. Surely that child in time is going to have some phycological problems. x

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Laura2919 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 14,111	I dont really understand the whole thing if I am honest. Its a bit mad! lol

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x-amy-x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Teesside, UK Posts: 13,812	Its a bit of an odd thing to do. And surely only alienates the child? I hope the kids in school aren't too mean anyway! No doubt the kid will end up running around naked or something to prove a point!

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jenny_wren Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: farnborough, hampshire Posts: 17,005	that's really odd surely when he/she starts school they're going to be bullied no end how is that child supposed to fit in and make friends ... tbh i think its a daft idea!

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Panda_Ally Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 7,392	I dont know what they are trying to achieve, just singling POP out and making them confused!!

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Logan's Mum Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: North East Posts: 1,379	Bizarre.... yes, you shouldnt really gender stereotype your child too much (you know, blue for boys etc) but not telling anyone their sex?!? hmmmmm when the kid starts school they will probably show what sex they are (getting dressed for gym etc) so will be told by their classmates. What happens then, will they go home and ask their parents if they are the sex their classmates say, and what will the parents say??? I really dont know

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nicholatmn Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 11,845	I don't understand the point of doing that?

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