Keeping Gender Secret - Page 4

dizzyisacow · Mar 16th, 2010, 10:23 AM

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I was reading this and thinking that I'd heard this story before. And you know what, I have. It's a story that you can find here The story of X

thanks. is that a real story? lovely read.

marley2580 · Mar 16th, 2010, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by dizzyisacow

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Originally Posted by marley2580

I was reading this and thinking that I'd heard this story before. And you know what, I have. It's a story that you can find here The story of X

thanks. is that a real story? lovely read.

No, I can't remember who wrote it, but it was written to highlight how much adults and society influence a child's gender identity.

dizzyisacow · Mar 16th, 2010, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by marley2580

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Originally Posted by dizzyisacow

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Originally Posted by marley2580

I was reading this and thinking that I'd heard this story before. And you know what, I have. It's a story that you can find here The story of X

thanks. is that a real story? lovely read.

No, I can't remember who wrote it, but it was written to highlight how much adults and society influence a child's gender identity.

the only thing i agree with is that both genders should be equal, play with the same toys, play together e.t.c but theres nothing wrong with saying im a boy/girl
but im not so sure about putting a pink dress on my son!

hopeandpray · Mar 16th, 2010, 13:03 PM

i dont see how this would last. kids talk about their body parts and in my experience toddlers like being naked! if they're actively making the kid hide their gender surely this makes the child more concious of it instead of less

marley2580 · Mar 16th, 2010, 13:58 PM

I don't think that's what they're doing though. I think they have told people close to them it's just the wider social circle that they're not telling, so people who would be unlikely to see the child naked.

princess_bump · Mar 16th, 2010, 14:11 PM

whilst i can see what they are trying to do, i certainly do not agree with it. why cannot they let the child just be 'typical' and let him/her play with and wear both sets of clothes? for me this would be a much better way than to help fight gender stereo-types. imo they are just making problems for the child later in life, children have enough to contend with and deal with as they grow up, without the parents starting out by saying 'your different' because, for me, thats what there doing!

oh and to add, why can't the instil the idea, like my mother did, that you can do anything if you set your mind too it, regardless of gender, ethnicity, socio-economic background and everything else some parts of society seem to oppress; this is what i do with my daughter.

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marley2580 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Forfar Posts: 6,100	I don't think that's what they're doing though. I think they have told people close to them it's just the wider social circle that they're not telling, so people who would be unlikely to see the child naked.

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princess_bump Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: England Posts: 31,453	whilst i can see what they are trying to do, i certainly do not agree with it. why cannot they let the child just be 'typical' and let him/her play with and wear both sets of clothes? for me this would be a much better way than to help fight gender stereo-types. imo they are just making problems for the child later in life, children have enough to contend with and deal with as they grow up, without the parents starting out by saying 'your different' because, for me, thats what there doing! oh and to add, why can't the instil the idea, like my mother did, that you can do anything if you set your mind too it, regardless of gender, ethnicity, socio-economic background and everything else some parts of society seem to oppress; this is what i do with my daughter.

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