birthday/valentines/xmas cards.. does ur partner 'bother'?

pinkish_angel · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:25 PM

I was having this discussion last night with my boyfriend. We have been together about 10 months.. he didnt get me a christmas card.. For valentines day, he didnt even say happy valentines day (I rang and he was like 'oh I forgot', even though we had been speakin bout it a few days b4)... Now he is saying he aint gonna get me a birthday card cuz he doesnt 'do' cards. Am I silly for feeling sad about this? I believe that its the thought that counts and a simple card can say a lot. It means more to me than any present.. what do u think? am I jus bein petty? xx

jay_elizabeth · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:28 PM

My hubby definitely doesn't do cards, I don't mind now but it took a good deal of getting used to, we have now been together for 8 years. It was my birthday this Monday past and he told me he had meant to get a card but forgot, I have long stopped expecting cards but I know it doesn't say anything about how he feels about me, I know he loves me but he'll never get me cards for anything!

dizzyisacow · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:29 PM

your right to be sad about it,does he know it means alot to you?

jennie_78 · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:30 PM

My OH get me cards for all those occasions. Plenty of times we have been skint, but even just getting a card is enough for me.
Id be gutted if he didnt.

dizzyisacow · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:33 PM

just to add my dh doesnt do cards either. but he does get me gifts even when we cant afford it, even if its just flowers, or for my birthday i told him how much i love those ballons that stay up for ages because they are thick, and he couldnt find any so got all the little balloons in the shop that said happy birthday,or were cartoons that i still have a year later and a bunch of roses that i dried and also still have.

better2gether · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:42 PM

If he KNOWS how much you like getting cards yet still said he won't get you one, that is really crappy in my opinion. I don't understand for the life of me why it is so hard to take five minutes of your time to go pick up a card. I'm lucky in that my OH gets me cards on special occasions. You're right... They do mean so much more! I keep them in a box and read them whenever I want that warm fuzzy feeling. You should really talk to him.

sophxx · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:46 PM

my oh is good with cards and presents i dont remind him! weather my mum does i dont know! he alwasy picks my cards and personal presents perfumes ect then gives my mum a budget to get me what every else i might have asked for! x

pinkish_angel · Mar 10th, 2010, 14:23 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyisacow

your right to be sad about it,does he know it means alot to you?

He said he didnt realise it means so much and that he will 'try' and get me a birthday card.. I know he wont tho

. The thing that annoys me the most is that at christmas he wrote all his neighbours in his block xmas cards. He didnt get round to sending most of them but he still wrote them. Surely, he shoulda wrote mine FIRST. He said they were only crap cards but so what. A crap card is better than no card and if he spent the time writing theirs, why not me

pinkish_angel · Mar 10th, 2010, 14:24 PM

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Originally Posted by jennie_78

My OH get me cards for all those occasions. Plenty of times we have been skint, but even just getting a card is enough for me.
Id be gutted if he didnt.

Exactly.. I would be happy with just a card.. Im not fussy bout presents.

pinkish_angel · Mar 10th, 2010, 14:26 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyisacow

just to add my dh doesnt do cards either. but he does get me gifts even when we cant afford it, even if its just flowers, or for my birthday i told him how much i love those ballons that stay up for ages because they are thick, and he couldnt find any so got all the little balloons in the shop that said happy birthday,or were cartoons that i still have a year later and a bunch of roses that i dried and also still have.

aw hun, how thoughtful. Thats all it is really... a bit of thought.. just to show they care. And back to your thread hun, that is one of those things that gives u reason to live

Mar 10th, 2010, 13:25 PM	#1
pinkish_angel Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 4,102	birthday/valentines/xmas cards.. does ur partner 'bother'? I was having this discussion last night with my boyfriend. We have been together about 10 months.. he didnt get me a christmas card.. For valentines day, he didnt even say happy valentines day (I rang and he was like 'oh I forgot', even though we had been speakin bout it a few days b4)... Now he is saying he aint gonna get me a birthday card cuz he doesnt 'do' cards. Am I silly for feeling sad about this? I believe that its the thought that counts and a simple card can say a lot. It means more to me than any present.. what do u think? am I jus bein petty? xx

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Mar 10th, 2010, 13:28 PM	#2
jay_elizabeth Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Aberdeen, Scotland Posts: 43	My hubby definitely doesn't do cards, I don't mind now but it took a good deal of getting used to, we have now been together for 8 years. It was my birthday this Monday past and he told me he had meant to get a card but forgot, I have long stopped expecting cards but I know it doesn't say anything about how he feels about me, I know he loves me but he'll never get me cards for anything!

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dizzyisacow Other BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,810	your right to be sad about it,does he know it means alot to you?

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jennie_78 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 1,623	My OH get me cards for all those occasions. Plenty of times we have been skint, but even just getting a card is enough for me. Id be gutted if he didnt.

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Mar 10th, 2010, 13:33 PM	#5
dizzyisacow Other BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,810	just to add my dh doesnt do cards either. but he does get me gifts even when we cant afford it, even if its just flowers, or for my birthday i told him how much i love those ballons that stay up for ages because they are thick, and he couldnt find any so got all the little balloons in the shop that said happy birthday,or were cartoons that i still have a year later and a bunch of roses that i dried and also still have.

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Mar 10th, 2010, 13:42 PM	#6
better2gether Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: USA Posts: 1,000	If he KNOWS how much you like getting cards yet still said he won't get you one, that is really crappy in my opinion. I don't understand for the life of me why it is so hard to take five minutes of your time to go pick up a card. I'm lucky in that my OH gets me cards on special occasions. You're right... They do mean so much more! I keep them in a box and read them whenever I want that warm fuzzy feeling. You should really talk to him.

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sophxx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 6,506	my oh is good with cards and presents i dont remind him! weather my mum does i dont know! he alwasy picks my cards and personal presents perfumes ect then gives my mum a budget to get me what every else i might have asked for! x

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